|Bill is not happy about being outed|
After forty-seven years, we're going to make it legal...sort of. As of January 1st this year, Delaware now has in place a civil union law that same sex couple can marry. I'm not sure is the world "marry" is exactly right but that is the word I'm using.
|There he is, my Life Partner and Best Friend - Bill|
While this new law is little more than a feel-good law for same sex couples, it does provide some statewide protection for hospital visits, insurance benefits within the state, and some inheritance rights. We are still a long way from truly equality that our heterosexual counterparts take for granted every day of their lives.
Bill isn't going to like me writing about this, and usually I accede to his requests but this time I'm writing about our situation anyway. Bill is a very private person. And he is of the old school of gays when they are called "homosexuals" and you were not seen nor heard from lest you offend the straights. Of course anyone who knows me, know that I am the exact opposite. I make no apologies nor do I accept being discounted as an American citizen or human being because I just happened to be born gay. If anyone has a problem with me being gay it is their problem, not mine. Of course this attitude has gotten me into a lot of trouble over the years but that is my lot in life. I accept the challenges and deal with them as they come. Most battles I have won, but I have lost a few battles including two job just for the very fact that I was known to be gay and didn't disown that fact.
Now how are we going to handle the details of ACTUALLY getting married? Bill didn't want me writing anything about it on my blog. Good luck there Bill! No way I'm not writing about it. I'm not sending out wedding announcements though.
After the "me first" fervor of the local gay couples dies down, Bill and I will take a trip to Georgetown, the local county seat. We have a justice of the peace who has made it known in the local newspapers he doesn't approve of same sex couples but he is performing the ceremonies anyway because he wants to keep his job. Hey justice of the peace! It's called the LAW! Obey it!
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I know of other couple who are traveling to Kent County or New Castle County were they will receive a friendlier reception of the local officials who are also obeying the new law of civil unions for same sex couples. Not me, why should I go out of my way just to accommodate this guy who DOESN'T APPROVE?
Now I'm not going to get into all the arguments of "this will ruin the institution of marriage" by allowing same sex couples to marry (most of my best straight friends are of this opinion by the way), because that is just a waste of my time. There are some people whose minds you will never change and I'm not going to waste one more minute of my time trying to make them "accept me." I'm 70 years old and I'm tired of these people and I'm tired of dealing with this attitude Tired.
So some day, maybe next month, Bill and I will take the short ride down Rt. 9 to Georgetown and jump through the whatever hoops necessary to finally get some legal protection and community recognition that we too are a loving and committed couple who contribute to our community and provide a better place on this earth for us all to live. We're all in this together folks, get used to it!