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Bill at Rehab January 30, 2021

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This morning I was able to visit Bill again for one hour. I won't be able to visit again for three days because of impending snow. I don't travel in the snow. Slipping on the snow and ice three years ago was the cause of me tearing my left leg quadricep which put me out of commission for months. I cannot take any chances that I won't be here for Bill when he is discharged from the rehab facility next Friday on February 5th, 2021. Thank goodness he was more lucid this morning when I talked to him but he's still so tired. I'm still concerned about his mobility. I couldn't get him to maneuver himself so I could put a shirt, that I brought up, on him. His mobility is a big concern of mine when he is home. I would like to see more improvement. But we have another week to go at the rehab facility. Hopefully he'll be able to have more mobility. I'm not sure if I could manage if he was completely bed ridden. I brought his glasses up to him but he didn't want

Bill At Rehab January 29, 2021

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  This morning I took the hour drive to visit Bill again at the rehab facility where he's been for a week now.  Yesterday I got the news that Bill will be discharged next Friday. When Bill called me last night (I was at work), he sounded normal for the first time in a long time. I informed him that he is going to be discharged next Friday (February 5th). He was very happy to hear that. I was looking forward to visiting him this morning to share his upbeat mood. However I was disappointed. He was groggy. He hardly knew I was there. I asked if he was given medication. I was told he wasn't but when he doctor came around later while I was sitting with Bill as he slept and mumbled, he did say Bill was agitated yesterday and they gave him (I think) some kind of sedative. I don't know exactly what they gave him but he was very groggy (the only word I can think of, "drunk" is to hard of a word).  Bill resting after his physical therapy His physical therapist came by (she&

Bill's Rehab Update January 27, 2021

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Me and Bill today at his rehab facility -Bill in his favorite sweater and blanket This morning I took two pairs of pajama bottom pants with pull strings for Bill to wear during his stay at his rehab facility in Dover. His regular jeans are too hard for him to put on because he is so weak. I was very fortunate again in that they let me go up and see Bill.  When I walked into his room his doctor was talking to him. It was a good thing I went up in person today because his doctor had a chance to talk to me as well as his physical therapist and occupational therapist. Always better to ask and answer questions in person to those who are helping Bill get better and return home.  Today the doctors have their weekly evaluation of the patients and decide which ones who will be discharged. I don't know if Bill when be discharged but they did ask me to come back Friday at 8:00 for training for caring for Bill when he returns home.  During my stay for the first time I saw Bill walk, albeit wit

Bill Rehab Update January 25, 2021

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Bill on his iPad in his favorite Archie Bunker chair in our sunroom   Today was the first full day of rehab for Bill. He arrived at the rehab facility last Friday night. I visited him Saturday, bringing his clothes to him. It seems so long ago now though only a few days ago. There is no physical rehab on the weekends at the facility, giving Bill time to settle in. Bill called me this morning from his room. This is the best he sounded since he fell and struck his head Thursday, January 17th. His voice is still stressed and he occasionally get confused but he knows who I am and wants to go home. I impressed upon him that he can come home as soon as he improves his mobility. I received calls from the coordinator at the rehab facility telling me of their plan. Bill will rehab then, if he improves they will send him home to me, his caregiver. They asked me if I was willing to be his full-time caregiver, which I readily agreed to. The good news is that his Medicare Part A covers several visi

Visit To Bill Cancelled Today Because of COVID

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  Bill's favorite knee warming throw (the one I took up to him today) This morning I received a call from Bill asking me where I was. I told him I was on my way to visit him. I had packed his favorite Archie Bunker sweater (a raggedy sweater that never makes an appearance outside our home), Bill's favorite sweater (a raggedy Archie Bunker sweater) - he LOVES that sweater, he has it now. I hope they let him wear it Bill's soft warm throw that he uses when he sits in the sun room, pureed butternut squash soup, shredded cabbage, carrots and potato mix that I make for him and he so loves, and Hershey's Kandy Kisses (that he loves to melt in his mouth), and also more replacement batteries for his hearing aid.  This is Sunday so the traffic was light up Route One but of course wouldn't you know it I missed the exit and ended up taking the long way in through downtown Dover. Yesterday I took the Expressway that took me right into the rehab facility where Bill is staying. O

Bill at Rehabilitation Hospital Surprise Visit

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Last night I got a call from the evening nurse on duty that Bill had arrived at the hospital yesterday.  The night nurse asked me for information about Bill. He also asked me to come in with Bill's health care directive and to sign certain forms for Bill's stay at the facility. I asked if I could visit and drop off Bill's hearing aid and dentures. I also wanted to bring Bill some clothes because, believe this or not, whoever transported him down to Dover, Delaware from Philadelphia, left two bags of Bill's personal belongings at the Philadelphia hospital where Bill was staying since last Thursday (January 14th).  Thank God I was able to retrieve them (including Bill's wallet with all his identification and credit card, which I, of course immediately reported as lost) by asking my Philadelphia Center City resident Don to pick them up.  He did and will mail Bill's things to me next week. This morning I got a phone call from Bill wanting to know when I was going to

Bill Moves Out Of the ICU Unit

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PAM Rehabilitation Hospital of Dover   Bill was moved out of the ICU unit this morning to the stroke unit at Thomas Jefferson University Hospital in Philadelphia. I inquired if he had a stroke and I was told, no, the stroke unit is a step down unit prior to releasing him from the hospital. He's scheduled to be moved tomorrow to PAM Rehabilitation Hospital in Dover for physical therapy. I inquired as to how long he would be there and, even though all case are different, I was told "one to two weeks."   34 private rooms like this I cannot visit Bill at the rehabilitation hospital because of COVID but he is closer, only about forty miles up Route One from our home here in southern Delaware. God bless that case worker who placed Bill at this rehabilitation hospital. There were five choices, of which I couldn't choose but some of them were in Maryland and New Jersey.  Rehab center (I've been in these, twice!) I wasn't able to talk to Bill today yet but I hope I can

Bill in ICU Thomas Jefferson Hospital January 19, 2021

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Bill is still in the ICU unit of Thomas Jefferson University Hospital in Philadelphia.  I was able to talk to him via FaceTime yesterday. This was the best conversation we had yet since he was airlifted to Thomas Jefferson last Thursday evening. Bill still can't quite see me on the iPhone FaceTime but he did catch glimpses.  Mostly he put the nurses's iPhone to his ear so he could hear me because he is hard of hearing.  When I first called yesterday I couldn't get through to him because he had a choking incident while he was eating an English Muffin for breakfast. Oh my God, he can't eat anything like that which I immediately told the nurse. Bill has had trouble swallowing for years because of his restricted esophagus. I told them that he loves oatmeal which they were glad to know. They also have now put him on a pureed food program.  Bill wants to come home. He thinks he's ready to come home now but he isn't because he can't even get up by himself. He would

Bill Still In The Hospital, Monday, January 18, 2021

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  I awoke this morning about 6:30 AM to an empty house again. For the first time since Bill's fall last Thursday I felt the slightest glimmer of relief from my profound sadness of losing Bill. Maybe this was a result of talking to my friend Glenn on FaceTime yesterday about the loss of his longtime love Mike last month. He said when it got almost unbearable he took the advice of a psychiatrist whom he was seeing in his youth when he considered suicide because he was so depressed about his sexuality. The psychiatrist said to close your eyes and if you see a light, then there is hope. No matter how small the light, there is hope. I felt that this morning folks. Not much but there was something. Maybe my imagination, I don't know but even if I'm psyching myself, if this helps me to get through this... I'm thinking of Bill and how often he said he's tired of living after he lost his sight (macular degeneration) a couple of years ago. He could no longer work on his elect

Bill Still In Hospital January 17th, 2021

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  Bill and me July 4, 2009. That is Bill's lawn mowing hat. He put those extra doo dads on for our neighbor Barbara This morning I woke up at 4:30 AM for a bathroom visit. Couldn't get back to sleep. All my memories of me and Bill flooded back into my brain. I tried to get back to sleep but couldn't.  Best to get up and do something, to take my mind off of the huge sadness of these memories of me and Bill together, at least temporarily. I decided that I'm going to chronicle this latest chapter of the Ron and Bill Story. I always knew this day would come. It was always in the back of my mind. Of course, like most young people when they are you, you think you are going to live forever.With me and Bill, I thought we would be together forever in good health. It was inevitable that one of us would decline. Whenever that thought came into my mind, I pushed it way in the back of my mind. I just didn't want to think about it. One thing is I didn't want to go first and l

Update on Bill In Hospital

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  Bill's Christmas lights Bill is still in the ICU unit of Thomas Jefferson Hospital in Philadelphia.  I've talked to him several times on FaceTime. His nurse was very kind to offer her personal iPhone to make this happen. Bill is still somewhat confused. It's hard talking to him on FaceTime because he doesn't have his hearing aid (it's here) and he never did learn how to look into the iPhone. I tried many times to teach him here at home so I could communicate via FaceTime when I was away with Pat on one of my quarterly trips. I finally gave up and sent him e-mails, which he was more comfortable with. He couldn't figure out the text message thing either. However, I am so grateful that his ICU nurse offered the use of her iPhone so I could see Bill. The doctors are now giving him blood thinner medication to treat the four blood clots he has in his lungs. I assume the bleeding in his brain (which I think was caused by his two falls) has subsided. They asked my per

Bill Is In The Hospital

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  Bill with Sparky, one of his favorite dogs - 1972 As I type this blog entry, Bill is at the Thomas Jefferson University Hospital in Philadelphia, PA. He was helicoptered there yesterday afternoon after the doctors at the local hospital emergency room determined that he was near death from blood clots in his lungs. I was very reluctant to post this information but now that I am over the initial shock of finding Bill unconscious on the floor of his bedroom yesterday morning and had to call 911, I am writing this information, bad as it is, as a continuation of the saga of the life of me and Bill.  First of all, briefly, Bill's medical condition. He had bleeding on the brain (probably from the fall yesterday and the one a few days ago in the kitchen on the hard tile floor) which made the doctors' reduction to administer blood thinner medicine for the blood clots in his lungs. A further ultra sound found blood clots in his legs as well. Last night they inserted a medical filter de

Assault On Our Democracy

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Insurrectionists at the Capitol Building beating a police officer to death   Last Wednesday I was sitting at this computer updating my online Scrabble games with Pat. As usual, I had my TV on to my right as background noise. I rarely sit in front of my TV and just watch TV except for my Netflix movies.  On my TV was live coverage of the Senate's ceremonial verification of the Electoral College votes for the presidency. I was aware that Trump wanted his vice president Pence to do something he wasn't authorized to do, not accept the Electoral College results naming Joe Biden President and Kamala Harris Vice President. Of course Pence, whatever you think of him and I don't much think of him with respect, even Pence wasn't going to do something which he wasn't authorized to do by law, overturn the results of the free and fair election in which more voters voted for Biden than Trump. As I was concentrating on my seven tile board to perhaps score another BINGO, I heard a

Staying Safe During The COVID Pandemic

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  Deaths from COVID are rising dramatically across the United States. This dramatic rise has to do with families getting together for Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year's.  These family gatherings and public celebratory gatherings are super spreader events. Bill and I haven't participated in any of these super spreader events. However, we are exposed nonetheless.  I shop at our local supermarket several times a week. I work at the hotel twice a week. Our neighbor visits us at least once a week. He never wears a mask. In fact, I don't think he even possesses a mask. He's a good neighbor but he is a total Trumper, buying into Trump's lies about the election and, I'm sure, Trumps lies about the seriousness of the COVID pandemic. I know he goes fishing several times a week with his buddies. Also, during the holidays he had various family member visit him. Me and Bill, even before this pandemic hit, stay pretty much to ourselves. We never have company over. We used

Tipton Family Association of America Reunion Aug 16th & 17th 1996

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Another old VHS video, this one of the Tipton Family Association of America held at the Tipton-Haynes Historic Site in Johnson City, Tennessee April 16th and 17th, 1996. I really have to take time to figure out how to edit my raw old VHS videos. Maybe that will be one of my New Year's resolutions. But until that time, I'm going to post this raw, unedited version of videos that I took when I attended a TFAA (Tipton Family Association of America) reunion at Johnson City, Tennessee.  I drove down with my nephew Isaac "Ike" Tipton III, the son of my brother Isaac, who did not attend. Brother Isaac never attends my reunions, it's his thing. However, we did meet my other brother John and his wife Barbara at the reunion. They drove up from their home in Greenville, South Carolina.  There are some long stretches on this video that are undoubtedly boring to most of you, but I thought the little interchange between me and brother John at the outhouse was interesting.  For t