|Me and Bill - 1972|
Could it be possible? Could marriage equality, also known as "gay marriage", become a reality in my lifetime? Dare I even imagine?
Bill and I often talk about how far our country has come towards ending discrimination against gays and lesbians. We never thought we would see this in our lifetime.
We remember all to well that it wasn't that long ago that we had to hide who we were for fear of our physical safety and economic survival.
This morning I read on Huff Post where Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg said that the Defense of Marriage Act would probably come up soon before the Supreme Court this year. See here.
Last year Delaware passed a civil union law for same sex partners. Initially Bill and I were going to rush down to the courthouse in Georgetown and get "hitched". Then we thought, "This still isn't the real thing" and it isn't. Delaware's civil union law is a second class "marriage" of same sex partners. To us, it is not equal to a real marriage. I'm reminded of what a friend of mine said a few years ago after he and his partner of 31 years ended their relationship. A few years earlier he and his partner traveled to Canada with a lesbian couple and "got married." After their breakup I asked him "Are you going to get a divorce now?" His answer was "Oh that wasn't a "real" marriage. That was make believe."
I think that says it all, those civil unions and all other arrangements that are designed to give same sex couples they are "married" but designed not to offend many heterosexual couples are "make believe."
|Bill and me - 2011|