|Me at Gay March in Washingtoon D.C. October 4, 2009|
Out of the closet BIGTIME
I have three blogs.
One of my blogs is this one, "Retired in Delaware". This blog is my personal journal.
My second blog is one for my former high school class, called "Downingtown High School Class of 1959".
My third blog is for my family genealogy called "Tipton Tales and Trails."
As regular readers of this blog know my profile list me as a gay man. When I first posted my profile I hesitated to publicize the fact that I was gay, lest that I offend some readers of my blog. That hesitation lasted for about four seconds because I thought "This is who I am, if a reader of my blog is offended then that person is a homophobe and I do not want them reading my blog. "
I haven't had a problem identifying myself as gay in my profile. That changed today. Homophobia raised its ugly head again today.
Today I did a mass mailing of my "Tipton Tales and Trails" blog to a new mailing list that I obtained from the new president of the Tipton Family Association of America. His name is John Parrish and he has resurrected the TFAA and started to publish a newsletter. Ten years ago I was the TFAA editor of the newsletter. When I published the newsletter, I did not identify myself as gay. It wasn't necessary.
This morning I wanted to help John by publishing his newsletter to my blog. I also included the mailing list he sent to me. One thing I neglected to remember, was that my profile on my "Retired in Delaware" blog also appears on the profile on my "Tipton Tales and Trails" profile. Much of the mailing list for the TFAA newsletter is in the south. Yes folks, many of my Tipton relatives are conservative southerners. I hesitate to paint all southerns with the broad brush of gay bigotry but we all know that many of those in the South feel quite comfortable exposing their discrimination against gays.
Thus it was with some sadness that I received this response from this person who I e-mailed a link to my "Tipton Tales and Trails" blog this morning.
"Who gives a rat’s ass about your sexual preference!!! Otherwise, it’s pretty interesting."
You know folks, as long as I've been on the receiving end of this kind of hate, I never get used to it.
I'm reminded of a quote that Charles Tipton, my predecessor as editor of the TFAA Newsletter always had in quotes on the top of each edition of his newsletter:
"You can pick your nose but you can't pick your relatives"
As regular bloggers know, your profile appears the same on all blogs that you own. I don't have the ability to "censor" my blog on "Tipton Tales and Trails." However, even if I did I wouldn't. I am gay. I think it is pathetic that some people in this day and age still feel uncomfortable when confronted with the fact that some of their fellow human beings are gay.
|Ron, out and proud Washington D.C. March, October 4, 2009|
I came out of the closet in 1963 and I never intend to go back, no matter how many people I upset. In fact, I think it's time for more gays to come out like me and to make more of these gay haters expose their ignorance and bigotry.
|Me with my gay friends at the Washington D.C. March|
We're all out of the closet -never to look back!
While I'm a bit upset this morning (and after a good morning too), I feel like I accomplished a lot more than I intended to today. I exposed another bigot.
I'm tempted to send an e-mail back but I know that won't do any good to persuade this ignorant bigot to change his views. I've seen that movie and I know how that ends. Unless someone in their family comes out, they will go to their grave with all that hate.
Sad isn't it?