Thursday, December 26, 2013

Why We're Here



Ever wonder why we're here?  Surely, you must have stopped sometime during your daily activities and thought to yourself "WTF am I doing here?"  Well, maybe you didn't say "WTF" but something along that line.  

Well folks, I think I have the answer for you.  Yes, THE QUESTION that has been asked since time immemorial, "Why Are We Here?"  I have the answer.  And as one might suspect, it is a very easy answer.  Are you ready?  Are you sitting down?  Get you pen (or pencil) out and write this down:

We seek to enjoy the feeling of love and belonging, and our wish to connect with others is the reason we're here.

So there you go folks.  There is The Answer.  To love and being loved.  




Think about it folks.  Isn't that the Reason for Being?  Isn't that the root of everything?  Sure, some say to procreate; have children.  But isn't that love?  Others say to make money, be successful, help others?  But again, isn't that love?  

This one thing I know for sure.  The only time I've ever felt complete in my life was and is when I am in love and someone loves me.  

One doesn't have to be a genius to figure this out.  

You know, I could have all the money in the world but if I didn't have someone to love and who loved me in return it doesn't mean a damn thing.  

I could be the best looking guy in the world, the most successful actor, a rock star but it doesn't mean crap if don't have someone to love who loves me in return.

Ever notice when you're in love (for those of you who have or now lucky enough to be in love) how all the things you thought were problems in the world don't seem as important to you as being with  that person you love.  When you give that love and receive it in return that the world is a brighter place?  

Yes folks, that's what life is all about.  I got the answer, finally.


Me and Horace - love comes in all forms

22 comments:

  1. Love is good, though I've always thought I was put here to Learn.

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    1. To learn how to love Bob. All roads lead to love.

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  2. I always feel that this is the wrong question to ask. I prefer, "Why do I WANT to be here?" Since I follow Existential philosophy, I no longer wonder why we are here. I just know that we ARE here. Enough for me. Now the question is what the hell I want to do with my being here! We are getting at the same answer from different directions, is all. Biologically, we are wired to connect and attach and care for each other. and that is evolutionary. But is also feels damn good and allows us to feel as if there is meaning to our days. As an atheist, any questions that source "meaning" outside of ourselves tend to infer a being who creates that meaning. For me, I am that being!

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    1. Tony,
      I don't see life that way Tony. From my earliest memory I do remember "Why am I here?" I don't ever remember "Why do I WANT to be here?" Many times in my life I despaired wondering "Why am I here?" but that question was answered last August when I fell in love totally for the first time in my life. I've experienced many types of love in my many years on this earth but never what I feel now. For the first time I feel totally complete. For the first time my life isn't all about me but about someone else. And that just feels so right for me. That feeling answers all of the questions I've had about my meaning in this world.

      I don't know about atheist, agnostics, or believers. What I tend to believe is that when we die there is nothing, a void. I definitely don't believe there is a bearded, white-haired man sitting on a golden throne in the clouds waiting to pass judgment on me or that there is a Hell. If there is a Heaven or Hell, it is right here on earth. That I believe. Without getting too much into the weeds here, what I do know that is for the first time in my life I feel right with the world. I may go tomorrow, but for now my life is complete. Any extra days is gravy.

      Ron

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  3. Love is a wonderful thing. I felt it around my family and friends over the past few days. Nice post, Ron. Makes a lot of sense.

    Peace <3
    Jay

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    1. Jay,
      Yes, love is a wonderful thing. We all experienced it last year at the Bloggerpalooza. Blogger friends gathering together for what was a love fest. Love comes in many forms. To me if one is lucky enough to experience love in any form, their life is complete. Without love what do you have? Nothing.

      Ron

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  4. "You know, I could have all the money in the world but if I didn't have someone to love and who loved me in return it doesn't mean a damn thing."

    Ron, that's one of the best reiterations of 1 Corinthians13 I've ever read: "Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal."

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    1. Thank you, Geo. I was trying to remember this. Too bad too many Christians forget about love and only embrace hate.

      Peace <3
      Jay

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    2. Geo.,
      Thank you, I didn't know that passage from the Bible but I do know that the only time I feel totally happy and content is when I am in love and that love is returned in kind. That is so rare but when it happens, there is absolutely nothing better in the world. NOTHING. when they talk about near death experience and that light at the end of the tunnel with the all encompassing love, that's the way I feel when I am in love and I am in love now. IT.IS.WONDERFUL.
      Ron

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    3. Jay,
      You got that right about the shame of too many so-called Christians (I call them "so-called" because they really aren't Christians in the true definition of Christianity) to embrace hate. Witness the Duck Dynasty Guy, Phil Robertson. He really believes he is a Christian but he is all too ready to pass judgment and condemn fellow human beings who happen to love members of their same sex. This guy Phil Robertson represents exactly why I don't buy into organized religion, especially the faith (Southern Baptist) that I was raised, too many hateful hypocrites all to willing to pass judgment. I'm not a Catholic nor would I ever be (I could never get past all those swinging incense pots) but I like what Pope Francis said when questioned about gays "Who am I to judge?" Exactly.


      Ron

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  5. I'm here to annoy people. ;-)

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    1. Anne Marie, you and Todd must be laughing all the time because you are both very funny! I love to read his blog and you are a hoot!

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    2. we DO, as a matter of fact. and thanks for the compliment!

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    3. Oh Anne Marie, I annoy my fair share of people too just because I won't buckle under to their definition of how I should live my life. I love making waves. I LOVE IT!

      Ron

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  6. Love is important, but I think I am here to make a difference. How have I helped humanity? Have I been a giving person? Have I been a good role model? I can remember how important mentors were to me when I was young; now I would like to think I have mentored others along the way. I would like to think I have a legacy and will be remembered for my meager contributions to all of humanity when I am gone.

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    1. David,
      I agree with you that we all make a difference by being here; hopefully for the good and betterment of everyone's life. However, we are all flawed (or as the religious folk love to say "you all sinners!") but I do what I can. This I do know, the only time I've ever felt totally complete and right with the world is when I am able to love and have that love in return. That's how I know The Answer to Life. I think "making a difference" is just another way of loving this world and every living thing in it.

      Ron

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  7. Ron

    Hmm. The question since the beginning of civilization. I'll offer - to become the best person we can be.

    Pat

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    1. Pat,

      For me, love is the answer. It is the only time (when I'm in love) that I feel totally complete and like my "mission" is accomplished in this earthly existence. All else is superfluous, at least to me.

      Ron

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  8. I've never questioned the love my dogs and cats ever have or had for me. When it comes to humans though......(scratches head)

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    1. Stan,

      I truly believe how we treat our dogs and cat (and animals in general) is a measure of how we treat our fellow human beings. Now, having said that, I sometimes too have to wonder why some humans treat other humans as they do.

      Ron

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  9. I think the answer is to produce meaning; in our own lives and in the lives of others.

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    1. Dr.Spo,
      Yes and I think one of those ways to to love someone, especially when you see that they are lacking that love in their life. When there is a match, it is Heaven.
      Ron

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