Friday, December 27, 2013

Love


Staying on the subject of my last posting, love, I have further thoughts.  Actually I could write a whole book about love.  Yes I could, but I won't.

Here are my thoughts on love in no particular order:

Ever wonder why dogs always have unconditional love for their human masters?  Is it just a coincidence that "dog" is "God" spelled backwards?  Just saying.

Ever wonder why even the most craven criminal wants and seeks love?  The worst punishment dealt in prison, and which the criminals fear the most, is solitary confinement? 




Who among us hasn't seen the love in a mom or dad's eyes when they first look at their newborn child?  That same look in their eyes when their child graduates from high school or college?


My Mother with her granddaughter Dawn - 1964

Remember all those nights you spent in bars (my gay brethren especially) looking for love?  Wasn't that what everyone was looking for…..love? 


"Wanna go out on a date?"

This I know.  Love is elusive.  If you're looking for it, you probably won't find it.  But love will find you, when you least expect it.  


Me and the Spouse

Will everyone find love?  No and I don't have an answer for that question.  However, this I do know, when you find love or more accurately, when love finds you, return that love whole heartedly and treasure every moment because all too often, it is gone like the warm breeze on a cold winter's day.  




16 comments:

  1. I LOVE your post, Ron! You are truly fortunate to have found love in your life. I waited 53 years to find that special someone who I call my soul mate.

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    1. Paul,

      Isn't it wonderful? I too have waited a long time but I do not feel that my time was wasted, I grew and learned during those years and now I am ready for this ultimate happiness.

      Ron

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  2. I think that when I was born 'Love' gave up on me straight away with a shrug of "What's the point?" Unless, that is, one includes loving animals and one's parents, though I don't think that kind of love was at the heart of what you're saying here, Ron.

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    1. Ray,
      Never, but never give up. For many, many years I felt the same way and then one day this angel walked into my life. You just never know but one thing I do know, NEVER GIVE UP. And you're right Ray, the kind of love I was referring to in my post wasn't the "animals and parents." A very perspective man you are Ray. I hope you find your love.
      Ron

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    2. Thanks so much for those encouraging words, Ron. You've given me heart - not that I've ever really lost hope.

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    3. Ray,
      I am living proof that anything is possible. Many years ago I gave up on finding my soulmate. Some came close but no perfect match. I've had and continue to have a comfortable life and mostly happy life so I wasn't distraught of depressed but this summer, totally unexpected it happened. An instant match. I've never felt like this before in my life. I've waited a long time and there are complications, of course but this is what I've been looking for all my life. If I die tomorrow I will die peacefully but for once in my life I will have known true love. When it happens to you, you'll know it instantly and you know what? I think it will!

      Ron

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    4. Never say die, Ron (Not, perhaps the most apt expression for either of us.). But if and when we do go, sounds like you, for one, will be going out on a 'peak'. (I was going to type "going out on a bang'", though I suppose that's also possible for any of us!)

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    5. Ray,
      Never in my wildest dreams did I ever think at my age I would be going out with this high that I have now. I think of all the cliches but one that is especially apt is "Good things come to those who are patient" and man, have I ever been patient. It took a long time but this is worth it. My life is wonderful now. No loneliness, no sadness. It's all good. I hope you win "the lottery" too Ray.
      Ron

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  3. Amen, Ron, amen. Even coming out at 51, I refuse to give up looking, and refuse to give up hope. There's a few good years left in me, and I want love to be a part of them.

    Peace <3
    Jay

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    1. Jay,

      I am confident you will find your soulmate. I have no doubt. You're still a young man (compared to me) so you have a LOT of time left. But remember what I say now, one day, when you least expect it, that person will walk into your life and you'll know it. They will too because they are looking for you. And when it happens Jay, there is nothing in this world that surpasses that feeling. All those years I looked for it…..nothing. Then whenI wasn't looking, it happened. Mark my words Jay, it will happen for you. The best is yet to come.

      Ron

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  4. Hey Ron - I get teary eyed hearing the 12th of Never. Man - sure it's an ideal. But to experience that is so special. I'll never take anyone for granted again. I think we allow our love to dissipate when that happens. Thanks for the beautiful blog.

    Pat

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    1. Pat,
      "The Twelfth of Never" is perfect.
      Ron

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  5. A great post, as always,and a thought-provoking one. There isn't a more satisfying feeling than being in love or being loved by someone. In my torrid past I had very often mistaken lust for love. And (as the song goes) I looked for love in all the wrong places. I was also often afraid of commitment and played the proverbial field far too often. I was also afraid of getting burned.
    The greatest love of my life - my true soul mate - is now dead. During our relationship, his parents did everthing possible to keep us apart.

    As for now, I'm too tired and stressed to care much about a permanent relationship. But your words "never give up" are admittedly encouraging......

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    1. Jon,
      Oh I know all about "falling in lust." I've done that too,thinking it was love. And I too have looked for love in all the wrong places. I actually gave up 35 years ago looking for my soul mate (on my 37th birthday) and settled into my comfortable routine that I have been living since then with Bill (whom I love). But you understand, I always wanted to meet that soul mate. I have now. And I'm telling you, it is WONDERFUL! Bill and I will still stay together, that doesn't change but my life feels complete now that I have found that soulmate. I think you understand Jon. I hope you find your happiness too. You're still very young (compared to me) and you have a lot of time yet. I feel it will happen for you Jon and when that days happens, I will be so happy for you as will all your friends who follow your life through your blog postings. Just remember what the fat lady said (sang) "It's not over until it's over Jon!"
      Ron

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