Wednesday, February 18, 2015

Wayne M. Juneau

Wayne M. Juneau
1946-2015

This morning I found out that my friend Wayne died.  I don't know the details of the exact time of his passing, only that he died. 

Wayne was in declining health for over a year. A few weeks I visited him at the hospital.  I realized when I visited him that he wasn't going to get better. That was the last time I saw him.

I didn't know Wayne as long as I have of two other friends who died recently.  I met Wayne in 2005, when I was preparing to move to Delaware. 


My friends Ed and Wayne at the Purple Parrott (Ed died this past January 27th)

We had many good times together.  And to be honest we had some contentious times, as sometimes happens with friends. 

Wayne was a force of nature and will be missed by all who knew him, even those others who knew the contentious side of him. Whatever mood Wayne was in,  you couldn't help but like him. Wayne was fun.


Me with my friends Ed and Wayne in happier times

Rest in peace dear friend Wayne. I hope you now find the peace and happiness you sought your whole life. And thank you for enriching my life. You will be missed. 


Wayne at work
Update:

Wayne died February 8th, 2015 at the Milford Hospice, at 12:08 A.M., the first day of Mardi Gras.  What irony; Wayne who so identified himself with New Orleans and Mardi Gras died on the first day of that holiday that was unique to his personality. 
I hope Wayne is at peace now and having "a few" for us. 

36 comments:

  1. Please accept my most sincere condolences for your loss.

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    1. rjjs8878,
      Thank you. I hope Wayne has found his peace now. I will miss him.
      Ron

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  2. So sorry .....we are all getting older are we not?

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    1. John,
      At times like this I remember something my 86 year old grandfather (and the only grandparent I ever knew) said to me. He said (in reference to being old): "Ronnie, the thing I hate about being as old as I am is that I've lost all my friends. I have no friends left." Of course he had his children and grandchildren but his "friends", they were all gone. He said he used to like to ride around and visit them but he had no one to visit anymore. I felt so sad for him but I thought to myself "That will probably happen to me when I get older." And you know what? It's happening now. Within a month I lost the only two friends who would hang out (go to lunch or dinner) with me here in Rehoboth. I could gossip and bitch to and with them and just be myself. No more. I know people but no one as close as I was to Wayne and Ed. I am thankful that their suffering is over now and that they are in a better place (please excuse the cliche but I can think of no other way to put it). I will be forever thankful for all the joy they brought into my life and I will always (here comes another cliche) have our memories.
      Ron

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  3. Lovely post, Ron. Even though, as you realised yourself, it would inevitably come to this - a matter of 'when' rather than 'if' - it still hits one hard. My thoughts are with you, this being the latest of a series of similar hard knocks that you've taken, and also with those who knew Wayne better than some of us did. Rest well, Wayne - and look at just how much you were appreciated.

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    1. Ray,
      You're right, even though I was expecting this, Wayne's death has hit me like a punch in the stomach. As I said in a previous reply to a blog commenter, within a month I have lost the only two friends here in Rehoboth that I could call anytime and go out to lunch or dinner with and gossip and bitch to my heart's content They understood me and I understood them. I have lost my last two good friends here in southern Delaware. Thank goodness I have Bill and Pat. I have other friends but they aren't here and I never had the closeness to them that I did with Wayne and Ed. In past years I lost other close friends (Ron H., Sal, Penny, Anne Marie, Brad). I have to admit I am a bit overwhelmed with sadness right now. Another piece of my life gone.
      Ron

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  4. I am sorry to hear of Wayne's passing. He certainly gave his opinion on my postings.

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    1. Tommy,
      Wayne was opinionated, that was for sure. He was your classic contrarian but he had a generous heart and was funny as hell. He got a bad deal the last several years of his life when his longtime relationship broke up and his illness of the past year and a half. But throughout it all Wayne remained Wayne. I will miss him.
      Ron

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  5. I'm so sorry to hear the sad news. There's a feeling of profound emptiness when one loses a good friend. I hope fond memories will help fill the void.

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    1. Jon,
      You said it, "There's a feeling of profound emptiness when one losses a good friend." You are the wordsmith Jon and know so well how to articulate (better than me) exactly how I feel right now . . . a profound emptiness. And yes, I do have the memories of the many good times we had together. Wayne had his "moments" but don't we all. No one is perfect but beneath that sometimes gruff exterior was a person of immense intelligence, humor, and generosity. I will miss him very much.
      Ron

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    2. There are many times when I'm at a loss for words, Ron, especially when it comes to the subject of death. So many of my relatives, friends, and ex-lovers are gone now - - and there comes a point when my mind simply shuts down and my feelings become numb. It's too much to fully absorb.

      I found that writing very often helps when dealing with grief. I was so completely devastated after my mother died that I immediately wrote my book "Notes From the Midst of December". It kept me from going insane. There were so many deeply personal things in it that I had it privately published.(I plan to eventually revise it and make it public).

      I sent copies to all of my relatives - but only TWO of them had the decency to thank me. I don't think the others wanted to hear about my father's abuse. In fact, they probably didn't even believe me.

      Dealing with relatives can often be a bitch - - it's a good thing we were blessed with friends.

      This is getting long - sorry for the ramble.

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    3. Jon,
      I'll be honest here, I am fighting from being overwhelmed with sadness right now. Three good friends since September. Too much of ME is disappearing. The only solace I have is that none of my dear friends are suffering anymore. If I believed in religion I would like to think they are waiting for me. Oh wouldn't that be paradise?
      Ron

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  6. Ron,

    I am so sorry to read Wayne passed away, I was hoping things would improve for him with time. My Mom complains she has lost most of her friends, but I remind her of all her neighborhood friends and she smiles.

    Sorry it's been so long since I commented, but I was away on vacation and mostly offline for once. I had a wonderful visit with Austin and his family, many laughs and lots of good food. Felt lucky I didn't get stuck in Washington DC on Monday. I have enjoyed catching up on your posts! I slept 12 hours last night, which was wonderful since I was up 23 hours the previous day traveling home. That trip was worth every minute of missed sleep. I have to say one of my all time best vacations ever.

    Cindy from Sonoma

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    1. Cindy,
      So good to hear from you again. When I don't hear from some of my "regular" commentaries for awhile, I always fear the worst. That something happened to them or, "worse", I got boring. I'm glad you had a good vacation. Take those vacation days whenever you can Cindy. I'm sure your friends and family love seeing you. Hey, and I know what you mean about the trip worth every minute of missed sleep. Both Pat and I got very little sleep on our stay in the Golden State but that loss of sleep was worth every minute. I was glad to hear that your vacation was one of your "best vacations ever." Way to go Cindy!
      Ron

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  7. Ron,
    My condolences to you on your loss of Wayne. I read your Facebook post and was taken by surprise. Even though he had a bad year I just didn't see his death happening this soon.
    I read his last post and though it did point to your recent post, his comments sounded that they were coming not from the friend he certainly was but from one who angry that his mortality was closer than he wanted. He was younger than you or me and it seems that he was just not ready to die. I think that the saying that you hurt those closest to you was true in what would be Wayne's last post. I am hoping that if you did read it that you took it for what it was.
    It seems that death is all around me lately, and when I hear of one's demise, even someone who is not a close friend but a good friend of someone I know I get very sad. Each loss is a reminder of how little time we really have left. Even 10 years will go by in a flash.
    Again I rant, sorry.
    Jack

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    1. Jack,
      So good to hear from you again. Jack, rant all you want. That's what the comment second of my blog is for. I rant on my blog and I expect rants back, keep the discussion going whatever it's about. Life, death or just managing every day living. I appreciate your friendship Jack and I always look forward to your comments.
      Ron

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  8. Well Ron - you have said it well about your friend Wayne. It's difficult to lose friends especially ones whom you feel understood you. That's a special relationship. At the same time Ron - you are very well loved. I see it daily in your blog postings. Here's a long distance hug for you.

    Pat

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    1. Pat,
      You said it so well, it is difficult to lose friends especially one whom I felt understood me. Bob McC, Wayne and Ed all understood me. They remained my friends even when others would abandon me. They understood me and liked me as a friend in spite of my many faults. That is the measure of a true friend as you are Pat.
      Thank you,
      Ron

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  9. I am so sorry for your loss. Iit never gets easier, does it? Ugh.

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    1. Karen,
      I've lost three good friends (Bob Mc. in Sept, Ed C. in January and now Wayne in Feb). This isn't about me but I have to admit this is a big overwhelming. These three men weren't just "friends" but good friends. Someone who I could just be myself with. They understood me as few do (Bill and Pat the exceptions of course).
      Ron

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  10. Anonymous7:37 PM

    Ron,
    I'm very sorry that Wayne has past away. The only positive thing about this is that he is no longer in pain or suffering. I'm sure he will be missed by many people.

    Sincerely,
    Calvin

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    1. Calvin,
      Yes, Wayne's suffering is at an end. And he died Sunday night, February 8th, seven minutes past midnight . . . first day of Mardi Gras. Wayne's timing was perfect. He will be missed by man.
      Ron

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  11. I remember Da Cajun from the fist Bloggerpalooza! What a HUGE smile! All the time! We corresponded a bit since then, he was so very cool. I will miss him.

    Peace <3
    Jay

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    1. Jay,
      Wayne will be missed by many. He was a force of nature, and that is no exaggeration.
      Ron

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  12. Does he have any relations? what's to happen now? Is there are funeral? What do you know?

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    1. Dr. Spo,
      He has a sister in New Orleans, that is the only relation we know of. I do not know her name or if she is even alive. she was also very ill. I talked to his caregiver Linder this morning and she said that Wayne did not want a memorial service and wished to be cremated. She also told me that he died Sunday night, February 8th, at exactly seven minutes past midnight . . . . the first day of Mardi Gras. No one can miss the irony of Wayne's timing. Linda said he's "up there" having a libation for all of us. Thank goodness his suffering is at an end and is at a better place.
      Ron

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  13. Ron,
    My thoughts are with you. Thank you for visiting him and sharing. It's hard to lose a friend and you two were friends who shared a lot, lots of good and some rough patches but that is friendship. Big hug from me.

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    1. Fearsome Beard,
      I've lost three very good friends (ones who I could just be myself with) in the space of less than six months. Don't feel sorry for me but I have to admit, this is a bit overwhelming. Then I fall and damage my leg last night. What else can go wrong?
      Ron

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  14. I didn't know him, but I know you spoke fondly of him. May he rest in peace.

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    1. Walt,
      I liked Wayne a great deal. Even though he could be cantankerous (he was a contrarian) at times, and angered me (as I did him), I always had a special place in my heart for him. It broke my heart to see him first, lose his long term relationship then to become so ill the past year. He didn't deserve that. Wayne was the of person who always left you smiling. His suffering is at an end now and that is as he wished.
      Ron

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  15. Very sad indeed.

    Thanks for sharing...Wayne came to life (for me) in your blog posts.

    :-)

    -Andy

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    1. Andy,
      It was my privilege to know Wayne. To me he was a rock star.
      Ron

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  16. Anonymous4:06 PM

    Wayne passed away on Tuesday 17th at 12.07 am...Fat Tuesday...he was in care of Delaware Hospice in Milford

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    1. Thank you Linda.
      Ron

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  17. Anonymous4:29 PM

    This was my Uncle Wayne. My mother has been asking us to try to contact her brother. We spent a day with him when he came to New Orleans. We hadn't heard from him since. He was sick most of the days when he was in. I will let my mother know. We miss and love you Uncle Wayne!!!!
    Love, Christi and kids

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    1. I am sorry for your loss. Your uncle Wayne was an original. He will always be missed.

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