Thursday, August 22, 2013

Pat

Pat aboard the Kalmar Nyckel

I'm back!

Just a momentary (like three days) "pause" in my blog postings folks.  I apologize for any cause for concern or worry.  But I'm back now, a little tired but ready to take up the harness again and get up to my usual speed.

The cause of my pause was the arrival of a new friend from Toronto, Canada.  His name is Pat and he is a delight.  I've met so many nice folks through my blogging.  I can't quite figure that out because back years ago when I first ventured on the Internet to meet people (through personal ads) they were, without exception, embarrassing disasters.  I don't know what it is with blogging but so far everyone I have met through my blogging have been wonderful folks.  


Toronto Canada

My first contact with Pat was a few weeks ago when he commented on one of my blog postings.  I forget which blog posting and his comment but I just happened to be on the computer at the same time so I answered his comment as I do all my commenters.  He answered back immediately saying "Oh, you're there!" or words to that effect.  I said "Yes, I'm here."  Then we went back and forth for awhile, just talking about blogging in general (I think, Pat will correct me if I'm wrong).  


Me and Pat at our first dinner at Cafe Azafran in Lewes - vegetarian plate!

Since our conversation went on for a while I asked him if he had an Apple product and he said he did.  I said "We could talk on FaceTime."  He didn't know how it worked but he said he would try it.  Before we knew it we were talking on FaceTime.  

We clicked right away.  I liked Pat immediately.  I was especially impressed with his minimalist home which I could see in the background.  We talked about his minimalist house (800 some square feet) and he told me he was also a vegetarian.  

Pat is a very interesting man.  

Not only is he interesting; he is intelligent, witty, humorous and, oh did I mention.....cute.  What's not to like?  




A few days later he mentioned that he would like to visit Delaware for a week starting last Friday August 16th.  Great timing because I would be off work for the next six days.  So we made Pat a reservation at the Hotel Blue (no room at my inn) and Pat was on his way in his little Fiat.



Pat checking for a leak in his Fiat in the Hotel Blue parking lot - everything was all right, just air conditioner condensation water dripping off

He arrived late Friday afternoon.  There is a funny story about how I met him for that first time but I'll tell that in my next blog posting.  But that's where I've been the past week, entertaining Pat. 

"Eh?"


Pat at Nectar yesterday for breakfast - his last day in Delaware

23 comments:

  1. Ron - you write sooo well - and you make even me an interesting story. The folks back in Toronto love that photo you took of me - thanks so much for that. I can't believe what a whirlwind visit that was - beautiful place - and you are one beautiful person. I'm much indebted to you for the generosity of your time spent with me. You know I'll try to make it up. I hope you didn't lose any readers on my account. Love ya.

    Pat

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    1. Pat,

      It was my privilege to host you for your week in Delaware. You're a lovely guy.

      Ron

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  2. Randy in NEB2:25 PM

    Ron, And Pat, That little Fiat is cute just like Pat. I bet it gets good gas mileage! Did you ask if it rides nice? The trip from Canada had to be at least 1000km (600miles). I'm glad you two kids had a great time. Randy.

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    1. Randy,

      I look forward to introducing you and Pat to each other at next year's blogger event. I have a feeling both of you are a lot alike. I've told Pat about you and he said "Are you trying to fix me up?" We'll...not really but I know two nice guys when I see them and I think you would both like each other.

      I was so surprised at how comfortable I was with my long legs riding in the passenger seat in Pat's Fiat. I was very comfortable. Pat told me he gets 60 miles a gal (or something like that). His Fiat is a stick shift though.

      We had a wonderful time together last week Randy. That week went by in a whirlwind. Just goes to prove that two older guys still can enjoy life!

      Ron

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  3. Your personality shines through your writing Ron! I know I found you through Walt (WCS) because of a comment you left and I enjoyed your blog right away. If someone didn't like what they read, they would not come back so it is normal that you are "attracting" people who think like you. Patrick is really a cutie and I am so happy you have a new friend.

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    1. Thank you for your kind and generous words Nadege (I'm blushing). Isn't Walt the nicest guy though? I've never met him in person but I just know if and when I do he will be just as he appears to be in his blog.

      I am very happy that I made a new friend with Pat. It's interesting that one of the reasons I moved to the Rehoboth Beach/Lewes/Milton coastal area of southern Delaware was because of its large gay population. I wanted to finish out my remaining years on this earth in a community where I feel comfortable living openly as a gay man. We couldn't do that where we lived in Pennsylvania which was a shame because our home was so beautiful and perfect for us and Bill loved it so much. But I knew if Bill died before me I would be totally isolated and I didn't want to be one of those old single men who live in a big old house with vines slowly growing up around it choking out the life of the home and person. I preferred to me to an area like Rehoboth Beach where I thought I would make a lot of gay friends. Unfortunately that hasn't happened for several reasons, mainly because most of the gay community in this area is very cliquish and snobbish and I'm on the lower end of the economic scale. I've made a few gay friends and I appreciate them and many straight friends but I was looking forward to meeting someone a lot like me whom I could share my time with. As you know Bill doesn't like to go out or travel. I like to go out and travel and before I die I would like to enjoy those activities with someone who is a lot like me and whose company I enjoy. Pat and I clicked immediately. However, there is always a snag with me. This time it is the fact that Pat lives in Canada and I live in Delaware. So we'll see. But I have made a new friend who I like very much. And also very important, Bill likes Pat too.

      I have went on a bit here haven't I Nadege? But I know you understand and I always appreciate your understanding and kindness.

      Ron

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  4. Anonymous5:25 PM

    Ron, I'm so happy you had a great time with Pat and you are back to blogging. Been looking many times everyday for a post from you. Your blog is quiet addicting. Susan

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    1. Susan,

      Always good to hear from you! I have been a bit tardy haven't I? I'm feeling it too. After Pat left I had to go to work for a couple of days. Plus I was very tired from playing host (which I didn't mind one bit) to Pat for the week he was visiting from Canada. But I'm back blogging again. When I don't blog daily, I feel it. In the next two weeks there may be a couple more blips because I have to fill in for a couple of my co-workers so I'll be working extra. Then I have my Class Reunion coming up in September and my bi-annual family reunion coming up in October. Lots going on here Susan. Hope all is well with you.

      Ron

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  5. IT'S PAT! :)

    he needs to get a blog AND join us next april! we can always use another boyfriend blogger!

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    1. Anne Marie,

      When you meet Pat at the Bloggerpalooza next April, and you will because he is coming, make sure you hold that hug long enough so I can take a good picture of the two of you. He's a keeper Anne Marie. I know you'll like him as well as the rest of our blogger family. Now to get him blogging. He's a bright and witty guy but a bit on the private side which is all right but he, we'll bring him OUT won't we? Now I'm counting on you Anne Marie to put the LOVE on him. Thanks!

      Ron

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  6. Very, very cool. And I think I have the answer to your "why". When you meet someone through blogging, it's because you click online first. You read about their lives, you get to know the real person (at least you hope it's not a hoax). You spend time commenting and/or chatting, Facetiming, all that. So when you meet in person, it's just a small step up. EVERY blogger I've met in real life I've "clicked" with. Admittedly, some more than others, but we're all great friends now, and stronger for having met. It's all so good! One of the best experiences of my adult life was starting a blog.

    Peace <3
    Jay

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    1. You know Jay, you're right. Meeting folks through blogging we get to know more about them before we actually meet them in person. Unlike meeting someone the first time through an ad who you know nothing about and you're lucky if you can even get to see a photo of them. Someday I'll have to write about my experiences meeting people online. Now that I look back on it, some of those meetings were funny but not at the time. Most of them were just creepy and scary. What was I thinking?

      Like you every blogger buddy I've met I've clicked with. And also like you, some more so than others. I am so glad that I have met you and my other blogger friends and I am looking forward to meeting more at next year's blogger event.

      And also like you one of the best experiences if not the best of my adult life was starting a blog. It's all good isn't it Jay?

      Ron

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  7. I'm glad (and relieved) to know that Pat is a wonderful person and that you had a great time during his visit. Having always been partially paranoid, I was initially apprehensive that he might have been a serial killer or something (sure - it sounds crazy, but I have an over-active imagination).

    I can truthfully say, however, that I've never met a blogger I didn't like. Bloggers are very special people. I'm not into vegetarianism (like Pat), but I really admire the fact that he's a minimalist. It's the best way to live. I desperately need to downsize.

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    1. Jon,

      You know, I was thinking the same thing, is this guy a serial killer or some kind of stalker. I felt guilty for thinking that way but you know who the world is today and especially the cyber world. Nothing every surprises me anymore. Yes, I was apprehensive when I first met Pat but I've spent a week with him and we clicked immediately. As former president Bush said of his first meeting with Russian president Putin "I looked into his eyes and "was able to get a sense of his soul." That's what I did Jon, I looked into Pat's eyes and I did get a sense of his soul. Maybe I'm wrong but I don't think so after spending a week with him. He is genuine. We have so much in common. I hope we can remain friends because I do so enjoy being with him. Plus he's leading me down the right path, vegetarianism and minimalist. I need to "purge" as Pat says it. I also need to downsize and I know it. Now I have the impetus to do so.

      My hope one day is to have all you fellow bloggers and the folks who comment on your blog and my blog to meet. Wouldn't that be a wonderful thing to happen?

      Ron

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    2. jon needs to come to DE in april! then we can love all over him!

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  8. Anonymous10:19 PM

    Ron - good to have you back ! Glad you had some time off to give Pat the "Cooks" tour.

    Pat - love the Fiat 500 !! I've been checking them out here in Florida. They remind me of the VW Bugs. You have good taste.
    Like the wheels, haven't seen any like that here.

    Ron - That photo was P e r f e c t. How was the voyage? I'm sure you have more photos after all you are THE shutterbug.

    And good times were had by all.
    Stuart in FL

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    1. Stuart,

      Glad to be back! I'm not quite there yet but hope to catch up this weekend with my blogging and also read my favorite bloggers. I miss them!

      I was surprised at how comfortable Pat's Fiat was. Even me with my daddy long legs was comfortable riding in the passenger seat. I daresay I was probably more comfortable in Pat's car than I am riding in the passenger seat of my own Subaru Forester.

      I was lucky with taking a good photo of Pat. I took my good camera out for that boat ride. Of course the thought went through my mind a gale would whip up and the boat (ship) would capsize and I would lose my $1,000 Canon camera but I took the chance anyway! And yes, I have plenty more photos to share even though I was a bit sea sick while I was in the boat on that hot and humid day on the Delaware Bay.

      Yes, good times were had by all. Could you tell? :)

      Ron

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  9. Ron, I actually HAD been wondering why, after such enthusiasm, you'd suddenly gone all quiet. Had the original impression started developing leaks? Pleased to read that it was not so in the least and that all is well. I've no doubt we'll be hearing more of this much-valued new bond, which makes me quite envious of both of you - though very happy too, of course.

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    1. Ray,

      I was exhausted after last week. Plus, after Pat left on Wednesday morning, I went to work the next two days. Back to work at the busiest time of the year with all my needy hotel guests who are paying a LOT OF MONEY to stay at our lovely establishment. I had to be on my best.

      Yes, I have made a new BF. We are alike in many ways and understand each other so well. Bill likes Pat too, which is very important to me.

      Now to catch up with my blogging. And who said retirement was going to be boring?

      Ron

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  10. I've also been struck at how incredibly kind everyone in the blogging community seems to be. Sounds like Pat is no exception to that rule. How wonderful that you were able to meet one another. Cheers!

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    1. I too continue to be surprised at how nice, caring and considerate everyone (so far) in the blogging community is. As I mentioned in my replies to some other commenters, my previous experience with meeting people through cyberspace was not good. I'm glad that is not the case with the blogging community. Maybe it's because by reading each others blogs or comments, we get to know the people better and we can filter out those people who aren't compatible with us. Whatever the case, all I know is that I made a wonderful new friend last week and his name is Pat.

      Ron

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  11. Ron,

    It is so obvious the love we all have for you here on your super blog. The mixture of your clear thinking, wit, honesty, great looks, and I can go on - draws us to you, irresistibly, like a magnet. And the concern for your welfare is alway apparent in the comments I read here. Much love from all. I just hope someone like Oprah doesn't discover this or we'll all lose you. You are a good man, Ron Tipton.

    Pat

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    1. Thank you Pat. You're a sweetheart.

      Ron

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