|"Wahhhhh! They don't have same sex marriages in my state."|
Last night I read a column in the local gay rag where the columnist complained that "I have become obsessed with the unfair truth that 30 percent of gay/lesbian Americans now are able to enjoy the full-fledged federal marital rights while the rest of us cannot."
This columnist goes on to bitch because he lives in the oppressive state of Florida that he and his partner will not likely enjoy the key marital benefits now afforded to those who live in the less oppressive states that recognize marriage equality.
He said friends of his have suggested that he rent a moving truck and MOVE to a state that recognizes marriage equality instead of continuing to live in the SOUTH or one of those other states that are slow to recognize that the right to marry applies to EVERYONE.
Now I know and recognize that some of my blogger friends who live in THOSE STATES will strongly disagree with what I'm about to say but here is my message to those crybabies: (yeah, I said it)
Here's one thing that really gets my gall. Some of my gay brethren, specifically those who used to live in Delaware decided a some time ago that they had to move to warmer climes. They just had to move to Ft. Lauderdale, Sarosota or wherever in Florida because they were just soooooo much better than their less affluent gay brothers (and sisters). They are BET TAH than us, they live in Florida. Know what folks, I know quite a few gay guys who moved to Florida from Delaware because Florida doesn't tax their grossly generous retirement incomes from the Federal government (for which we taxpayers PAID FOR) or local public employees and teachers' retirement (for which we taxpayers PAID FOR). Yes Virginia, these folks have Florida as their legal address to SAVE money whilst they continue to spend time in the marriage equality state of Delaware. But oh, Florida is their LEGAL residence.
Now these same flush retirees from the public sector want MORE BENEFITS, specifically the now available federal benefits accorded to married couples. In other words they want it BOTH WAYS. Know what I have to say to those folks?
CRY ME A RIVER
Oh sure, I know there are many of my gay brothers and sisters who PREFER to live in those states that still legalize discrimination against same sex couples. I have a message for them too. You have two choices:
1) Go to a state that recognizes marriage equality and get married. Then go back to the state where you live and challenge them. In other words, DO THE WORK LIKE WE DID HERE IN DELAWARE. Don't expect marriage equality to be handed to you on bended knee on a silver platter (studded with rhinestones of course!).
You other choice is to MOVE to a state that recognizes marriage equality. Hey, I lived in my home state of Pennsylvania for most of my life. I hated to move but they were taxing me out of existence. What did I do? I MOVED! I didn't bitch and crybaby about it. I MOVED!
And don't give me this lame excuse "But I have a job and I can't move." Hey folks, it all depends on how important marriage equality is to you. Either stay in your backward, discriminatory state and live under their hateful laws or MOVE.
2) Of course your second choice is to MOVE. It's not the end of the world you know. MOVE.
Why anyone would want to continue to live in one of those southern states (or western "Dick Cheney" sates), is beyond my comprehension. Sure, those state have beautiful scenery, friends, relatives, cultural events but the state DISCRIMINATES AGAINST SAME SEX COUPLES. What is so hard to understand about that?
I've always believed people are in the situation they have created for themselves. Sure, you may temporarily be in a bad situation but you can change it. YOU CAN.
Believe me, if I did it anyone can. So guys (and gals), put on your Big Girl Panties and make your decision.....and stop crying. It's not butch...or ladylike.