This morning I had an epiphany. I know now that Pat and I will be married this year. How do I know? Since I've reached four score and plus years I find I often can foretell the future. Even though Pat hit a snag with his recent visit to the American Consulate in Montreal to get his K-1 VISA for our marriage, that was just a temporary setback. He only needs an original copy of Bill's death certificate to complete his interview and approval for us to get married. I sent Bill's death certificate to him last week. I expect him to receive it this week. Pat still has to get a physical, which I am confident he will pass, then we're off to the races. We'll have ninety days to get married.
Our wedding plans came to me this morning. We'll get married at the county courthouse in a civil ceremony. The same place Bill and I got married July 3rd, 2013,
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| Me and Bill married at the Sussex County Courthouse Georgetown, DE July 3, 2013 |
which just happened to coincide with our forty-ninth anniversary of the day we met in Philadelphia in 1964. This time I'm planning on getting married on my 84th birthday which will be November 9th, 2025. That's a Sunday which is very convenient for the friends I have invited to my wedding. I've already invited five people. They have all accepted.
Like my first wedding, this will be a basic but beautiful ceremony. The only money I'll spend is the $125 for the marriage certificate, up from $100 that I spent for me and Bill's marriage certificate. I'm not into big weddings just the way I wasn't into big funerals. That's fine for some people, but for me, and Pat, we just want a simple ceremony.
On February 22nd, 2017 Pat and I attended Dr. Spo's marriage to Someone in Palm Springs, a simple yet beautiful ceremony. The love in that room just as genuine and heart fulfilling as any massively expensive wedding with hundreds of guests! Nobody had to tell us to smile for the cameras!
Someone and Dr. Spo, me and Pat on the right, Fearsome Beard, Cubby and his husband on the left, February 22, 2017 Palm Springs, California. An absolutely beautiful ceremony!
That's the plan now folks!
By the way, if anyone had told me years ago that I would be married TWICE in my lifetime I would have thought they were crazy. And just how crazy is this? That I have met and two such wonderful men in my lifetime? Never in a million years would I have believed this life that I have been so fortunate to have led. Especially now, that at eighty-four years old I wouldn't be languishing away in some assisted care facility but about to begin the next wonderful chapter of my life?
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| Pat and me June 16, 2014 |
I am truly blessed in this lifetime. To have known and married to such wonderful and yet totally different men.
10 comments:
It never has occurred to me that a person contracting marriage has to prove the previous spouse is dead? Maybe my stepdad had to do that when he and my mom got married after dad died although daddy was dead six years by then, so maybe they didn’t. My stepdad also a widower but I don’t know when his first wife died and he was his first wife’s second husband because her husband #1 also had died.
Oh wait, that complicated story was from me, not Anonymous.
Best wishes to you and Pat. ❤️
While wishing you and Pat all the best for Nov, Ron (how could anyone NOT do so?) I can only look forward to seeing the photos - or p'raps video as well?
Nevertheless I'm delighted that you've turned out to be such a lucky fella at this stage of your life - and not ONLY you, of course!
Btw: I'd never really thought about it before but here in the U.K. I don't think wedding 'ceremonies' can take place on a Sunday - though I may be wrong. Presumably over there there's no such 'problem' - though I hardly think that you and Pat would have conformed to any religious stipulations - if indeed there be any at all.
Wishing you two the best!
Anonymous,
Yes, that sounded odd to me too that I had to provide a death certificate proving my previous husband had died. Thank goodness I ordered multiple copies of Bill's death certificates just for such an occasion. I remember my Mother didn't have enough copies of my father's death certificates when he died and she had to go through the hassle of getting additional copies. I would rather have too many copies than not enough. I just got my copy of my birth certificate from the state of Pennsylvania after I had to send the one I had to Pat. It took about two months to get that copy.
Ron
Oh Ivy! I was wondering who "Anonymous" was! Thanks for identifying yourself.
Thank you Ivy!
Ray,
I wasn't sure if we could get married on a Sunday but checking with the Sussex County courthouse in Georgetown, their website said the weekend is when most of their ceremonies take place because it enables guests to attend who otherwise would be working on weekdays. All the people (not that many really) I've invited so far are still have day jobs and aren't retired like me and Pat.
Ron
Jardley,
Thank you very much!
Ron
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