|Uncle Bill with his nephew Ikey and niece Karen - 1975|
This morning on Facebook this photo appeared on my timeline. Facebook has this function that reminds one of photos posted years ago. This particular photo said "42 Years Ago. See Your Memories" Facebook gives me the option of posting this photo on my timeline for my Facebook friends to see, which I did.
This photo was taken March 29, 1975. At that time Bill was known to my family as "Ron's friend." A member of the family but not quite equal. I have five nieces and one nephews. I also have ten grand nieces and nephews now and even one great-grand niece but that's a subject for another blog posting.
All of my nieces and nephew love Bill. Bill has a way with children that I don't have. I've always thought it was a shame that Bill never had children of his own because he loves children so much. Of course back then in the Dark Ages of Gay Life a gay couple couldn't adopt a child. I wouldn't want to adopt anyway not that I have anything against adoption. I did fantasize at one time about making an arrangement with a willing lesbian to have a child but that situation was fraught with complications. I decided to get dogs instead.
Seeing this old photo and realizing that Bill is their legitimate uncle gives me a great feeling. He truly is "Uncle Bill" now.
Bill hasn't seen his nephew and nieces for years. Nor have I since I am estranged from my brothers, which is a shame. Ironically what lead to the estrangement was Bill and I getting married officially. I don't think either one of my brothers approved of our marriage. My brothers aren't bad people and I will always love them and wish them well. But I will not accept their attitude towards me and Bill that we aren't a legitimacy married couple.
But one thing remains true, Bill is their uncle and he is my husband.