Showing posts with label uncles. Show all posts
Showing posts with label uncles. Show all posts

Sunday, November 11, 2018

Veterans' Day 2018


My Uncle John Tipton (on the right)

Today is Veterans' Day. I would like to honor two of my uncles who served in World War II. 

John Hannum Tipton was my father's younger brother. He was a paratrooper during World War II. He was captured by the Germans shortly after he parachuted into Belgium during World War II in 1943.  He was a prisoner of war for two years. He escaped twice and was recaptured twice. He was liberated in April of 1945, two months after his mother died.  His mother (my paternal grandmother) died think Uncle John died in the war. My younger brother John, who was born in 1944 was named after my Uncle John, in his memory, my father also thinking his brother had died in the war. Uncle John was held as a prisoner of war by the Germans in an Austrian castle. I wish I could have talked to him about that but his widow, my Aunt Peggy, said John would never talk about his experience except to say that they ate potato soup made of potato skins, which at that time was considered garbage. Little did the Germans know that their prisoners were eating the mot beneficial part of the potato.  I love potato skins and twice baked stuffed potatoes. In fact I had one tonight. In a cruel twist of fate, my Uncle John died in an industrial accident at thirty-nine years of age. He was a painter.  His overalls turpentine coated overalls caught on fire from a discarded cigarette.  He died three days later of burns over eighty-percent of his body. The last time I saw him he was swathed in bandages and looked like a mummy. He was my favorite uncle. He was the only uncle I had who would give me an occasional friendly wink. He never treated me like a child. He was also my cousins favorite uncle. I was a pallbearer at his funeral. I cried uncontrollably when I helped to carry his casket (along with my two younger brothers, all of us in our Army uniforms - we were all in the Army at that time) when we entered the Catholic church to the choir singing.  I will never forget that beautiful moment. Thank you Uncle John for your service to our country.

George Lincoln Hadfield, Jr. 


My other uncle who served in the Army during the war was my Mother's older brother, George Lincoln Hadfield. He served in Germany in the Engineer Corps. Uncle George survived the war. Never married.  I always suspected he was gay but I have no proof of that.  He also did not treat me like a child. He didn't wink at me but always was kind and warm to me.  I looked forward to seeing him every Christmas when he would come around with a cash gift for me and my brothers. Uncle George lived with his father all his life. A year after his father (my grandfather) died, Uncle George also died in a freak accident. He retired from Lukens Steel on Friday, July 1, 1983. He was mowing his grass that Saturday July 2nd. A bee stung him in his throat. He went into shock and died Sunday July 3rd, 1983.  The irony is that he lived his whole live with his father, who died the year before. Uncle George only got to live a year by himself before he died.  I will always regret that I didn't have a chance to talk to him about why he never married. I was too caught up in my life at that time. But I do remember at my grandfather's funeral  the year before when Uncle George saw me, he gave me a "knowing look."  I had not seen him for some years (since I was a kind of ten or so) and he seem to "understand" that we were kindred spirits. Was Uncle George gay? I'll never know.  He was hunter and very masculine. Uncle George private life will remain a family mystery. 

Today I honor both of these men, uncles on both sides of my family for their service to our country and for being uncles who were to me more loving than my father was not. I often tried to imagine a life where either one of these men was my father instead of the father I had, who incidentally did not service in the service. He was medically exempt. Believe it or not my father was hit in the head with a hatchet when he was ten years old (I'm not kidding) and had a brain concussion and thus exempt from the service during World War II.  Also the fact that he had three children under the age of five years. During the war my father was a long distance truck driver so he did his part for the War effort too, not to diminish him. But my father was distant and not loving or accepting. I've often wondered would I be gay if I had a father who was loving and accepting like my Uncle John or Uncle George?  Well, I've went long enough on this tangent which was supposed to be a tribute to two of my uncles who service this country during time of war. 

Thank you Uncle John and Uncle George. You will always live forever in my memory as loving and kind men.


Monday, September 26, 2011

Bachelor Uncles

Me and my cousin "Bud", September 1, 1951


I'm back folks!  I finally completed my six day marathon work schedule.  Just got up from my afternoon nap.  I think I'll survive.  Maybe go to bed early tonight and then by tomorrow I'll be good as new.

Anyone following my blog regularly know that I throwing a family reunion in a few weeks.  For the past few weeks I've been posting teaser photos on my Facebook page.  Mostly old, really old, family photos.  Here are a couple I posted today.  They are both of me and my cousin Edward "Bud" Tipton.  Bud and I were born the same year.  Bud and I are both bachelors (hint, hint) and both of us are smart, good-looking, and charm boys beyond all reasonable measure.  Everyone in the family (at least I like to think so) loves "Uncle Ronnie" and "Uncle Bud."

Me and my cousin Bud at his home 2009 - like me he is an avid (and good) gardner

 Hey, did you ever notice almost every family has a bachelor uncle.  I had one on both sides of my family.  On my dad's side it was his younger brother, Bruce.  Yes, I had an "Uncle Bruce."  On Mom's side of the family it was "Uncle George."  Both men were delightful and loved by all members of the family and yet had no family of their own.

Bruce Tipton - 1954 - Germany

I remember Uncle Bruce very well.  In fact, he lived with our family for awhile while he was a teenager because my grandparents had died before Uncle Bruce had finished high school.  Uncle Bruce used to babysit me.  Except for the time I crawled out from a second story bedroom and rolled down the front porch roof and landed on my head in the front yard when I was only six months old, he was a good babysitter.

George Lincoln Hadfield, Jr. -  1944
I guess I can say it now, I had the hots for my Uncle George from my earliest memory.  I didn't know what the "hots' were when I was only a ten year old but I did know I LOVED it when he came to visit my Mother (his youngest sister).  Of course Uncle George never molested me, not even close.  But oh did I ever enjoy his visits and his smile and that knowing wink he would give me every once in a while.  What a thrill that was for this ten year old even though I didn't know what was going on with my little body at that time.  I wish I could have had a "conversation" with Uncle George before he passed away too suddenly one day after retirement at 62 years old from an allergic reaction to a bee sting (in his mouth) that he got from mowing his grass.

William Hadfield - 1863

As regular readers of my blog know, I also research my family history.  I have many bachelor uncles and spinster aunts in my family tree as I am sure all of you do too. Here is a picture of my great-great uncle William Hadfield (he was my Uncle George's great uncle) taken during the Civil War.  Great-great uncle William never married either.  I wonder what life was like for the "single" man back in the 1860's.  I wish I could have had a conversation with Uncle William too.

Darlington Frederick Hannum - 1886

As in most families, mine was very poor except for one branch of the family tree.  That was my Great Uncle Darlington Frederick Hannum.  "Uncle Freddie" (as he was known in the family - you didn't think he went by the name of "Darlington" did you?  "Darlington" was his mother's maiden name) made his money in the Oklahoma Land Rush.  He went to law school and lived and worked in Washington D.C. as a patent lawyer in the late 1800's.  He was very well off and his money sprinkled down the family tree.  My Mother at the age of 35 years old came into a small inheritance from "Uncle Freddie" which enabled out family to buy our first television, it was a 13 inch black and white Philco TV.  Ironies of all ironies, we used to watch "Uncle Miltie" on TV.

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