Saturday, April 22, 2017

Thoughts on Blogging and Meeting That Special Friend

Me and Pat in Los Angeles this past February


Lately I've been phoning in my blog posts. I go through these periods when my interest in my blog wanes. However, do not be concerned, my interest is and will always be there. 

I began this blog back in 2005.  I've been blogging for over twelve years now. My posts have ranged from everything from childish, self-absorbed rants to truly thoughtful observations on life here in southern Delaware during my retirement.  

I have made several very good friends through my blog that I would never have known otherwise. For that will be eternally grateful because these friends have truly enriched my life.

Some of my blogger friends who I met up with in Palm Springs California this past February


But by the same token I have seen some of the ugliness that lurks out there in the ether of the blogosphere. That's why I have to moderate the comments left on my blog postings. 


I read other blogs and sometimes wish I could be as interesting as those bloggers. But alas, I am who I am. A seventy-five year old gay man who has worked hard all his live (and continues to work) to attain some measure of comfort and self-worth in my life. That goal of mine has largely been attained.  

Perhaps the greatest reward of my blog was meeting and acquiring the friendship of my Travel Buddy Pat of Toronto Canada. When I began my blog one of my reasons was to open my chances of meeting someone who was a lot like me.  Oh sure I have a life-time partner (and now spouse) of Bill for these past soon to be 53 years.  But Bill and I have little if anything in common except for the fact that we both like each other. Opposites attract for sure. But all my life I wanted to meet that person who was a lot like me.  A person who had the same interests as me, who was thoughtful, funny, witty and (of course) cute.  A person who didn't try to control or take advantage of me.  And most important a person who liked me as much as I liked him.  

My thoughts when I began my blog to meet someone like that was that there are several billion people in the world.  As many people as there are grains of sand on the beach. Surely there would be someone like that in the world who would stumble across my blog.  

After several years of blogging I gave up on meeting that person.  Then out of the blue about three and a half years go this person from Toronto Canada left a comment on my blog while I was posting another blog. First time that happened.  I answered is comment right away, thinking nothing more of it other than being polite.  

One thing led to another and we started to talk via FaceTime.  Ironically Pat had never read my blog before. He found my blog after seeing my photo during my appearance at the Delaware State legislature testifying for marriage equality. He was interested in me and did some research and found my blog.

A funny thing about our meeting was I didn't think too much about Pat during our FaceTime conversations other than he was a nice guy.  I didn't really become interested until I met him in person during his trip to Delaware in August of 2013.  When I met him in person I realized this was the Someone that I've been looking for all my life.  He was me. I felt totally comfortable with him.  

All those years hanging out in bars looking for this Someone.  Actually hanging out in all the wrong places too.  And here all along this Someone was in Toronto.  And I would never have found him except for my blog.

Folks, I'm not a religious person but I do believe in Fate.  I always knew I would meet this person, always.  I never doubted it.  

Now all you conservative traditionalists, do not worry.  I'm not leaving Bill.  Bill and I will always be together until one of us dies.  But I know now my life is complete with my friendship with Pat and life with my spouse, Bill. And to think this was all made possible by blogging. 

If I should die tomorrow, I will do so without any regrets that I missed something from life.  I haven't missed anything folks. I am one of the lucky ones in this world, I have realized my dreams.  

12 comments:

  1. Your blog posts are always interesting, Ron - and one of the main reasons is because you're very honest and not afraid to be yourself (ironically, every time I try to be "honest" it inspires the trolls to come out of the woodwork).

    For some odd reason, my blog mostly attracts middle-aged farm ladies. Gays usually don't like me, simply because I'm not "gay" enough. I started my second blog "Cabinet of Curious Treasures" so that I could do some raunchy, gay-oriented posts - - and, wouldn't you know, all the farm ladies followed me there. As a result, I'm only doing Disneyesque posts.

    You were very fortunate that Pat discovered you - I do believe in fate. It's definitely not easy to find someone with whom we feel totally comfortable(and share the same interests).
    Blogging does have the ability to enrich our lives.

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    1. Jon,
      I've always envied you with your trove of middle-aged farm ladies following. They don't follow me, that's for sure. In the past I have said some not too kind things about unwanted attended from women. That may have turned some of them off to me. I like women but not "that" way. I am very fortunate that Pat discovered me. You know what they say, when you're looking for that special person you'll never find him but he will find you. And that is exactly what has happened in my case. I just got off of FaceTime with Pat. We talk to each other several times a day and text all the time. But I do have to tell you when we're together, after about five days he's had enough of me. But that's alright, I understand Pat is basically a loner. He is a sweet guy though and we are totally comfortable in each oner's company. And that is a blessing.
      Ron

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  2. You're fortunate. I haven't extended any blog friends into my non-blogging life, but I'm still happy they're there.

    This was a great read.

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    1. Harry,
      I am very lucky. Pat and I kid each other all the time about how we "won the lottery." Of course maybe our friendship thrives because we don't live together 24/7. We have thought of that too. But whatever works.
      Ron

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  3. Yes, you are a very fortunate fellow indeed.

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    1. Dr. Spo,
      And I know it and I am so appreciative that I have found my Ultimate Friend. Pat and I are so compatible. A rarity these days among friends, at least the friends who I have had. Those friends who I am compatible with always have someone else in their life and I came second. My friendship with Pat is the first time I have come first. It's nice.
      Ron

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  4. What a great read! Its nice to see that despite the ups and downs of life, you are happy. Friends are important and of course Pat's a good one, after all he is Canadian. Big Bias there!

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    1. Jane,
      It's funny but I tell Pat I have always loved Canadians. And here I end up with a Canadian as a best friend. So perfect.
      Ron

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  5. Dear Readers - I don't get tired of Ron after 5 days - he just sometimes gets very touchy LOL. Yep, Ron - so great we came together. All the fun and experiences we've have totally enriched the two of us. I'm always grateful that I "discovered" you. I also enjoy your blog tho I miss some from time to time. And I really appreciate reading your loyal readers' notes to you and your replies. All this communication well surpasses the letter writing of former generations. Anyways, Ron, I'm always truly humbled by your endless compliments.

    Pat

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    1. Pat,
      Thanks from rescuing me from a flow fadeout in my life. You have renewed my interest in life.
      Ron

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  6. Anonymous9:06 PM

    Yes you remember and rant. But I liked the new Martha Stewart persona that came through in your pot pie
    recipe.Just when we were getting to know one Ron, we see a whole new side

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    1. Anonymous,
      Many sides to my personality. I will try to remember to share more recipes!
      Ron

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