Tuesday, January 27, 2015

Ed Cage 1941 - 2015

Ed at my house in Pennsylvania 1998

This morning my longtime friend Ed Cage died at 4 A.M.  I've known Ed for over sixty years. He died of liver cancer. Rest in peace dear Ed. 

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  1. Commiserations, Ron. Not good to hear at all - we're all falling off the perch one by one. Nothing can stop it and you seem to have had more than your fair share of like bad news in recent times.
    (Only heard day before yesterday that my bro-in-law has been diagnosed with stomach and liver cancer, so hearts are heavy while waiting on developments).

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    1. Ray,
      These days losing so many friends so soon is becoming a bit overwhelming. Surreal. So many memories.
      Ron

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    2. Anonymous11:41 AM

      I can imagine how overwhelming it must be. I commend you for paying tribute to your friends that have passed away in the last year, month, and that are currently in the hospital. I'm not the most articulate person (and wish I could say this more eloquently). But I hope to convey my wishes that I hope the man paying tribute (you) also takes care of himself and can keep his spirits up as these sort of events obviously lead to depression. In other words, kudos for your tributes, and keep your spirits up amidst these trying moments.

      ~ Canuck

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    3. Cannuck,
      Yes, the past few months have been a bit overwhelming, beginning with the death of my longtime friend Bob McCamley. Bob, Ed, Wayne and I all hung around together. It is so ironic that all of them are dying in such a short period of time. For a moment there this morning I was overcome come with emotion with the news of Ed's passing but soon came back. Ed was suffering and he knew the end was near. I will always remember the last time we went out to dinner (this past summer, with Pat who liked Ed very much) at Ed's favorite restaurant, the Villa Sorrento in Lewes, Delaware. Ed never expected to go out again, he was that ill but he made the trip. After our meal, as we were parting in the parking lot, Ed said sort of to himself "That was nice." If you knew Ed he wasn't one with the compliments although I'm sure he appreciated everything as much as anyone else. He just never articulated his thoughts that much. But when he said that I knew that this was probably our last dinner together, and it was. I'm glad he had a chance to go to his favorite restaurant and have his favorite meal, lobster , which I always teased him about (I don't like seafood nor does Pat). What a good memory to go out on. It still seems surreal that Ed will no longer be around. I could always call him and gossip. No more. Just this year I've lost Bob, Ed and Brad (a former love). They all knew each other and we all had good times together. The memories will live forever. But life goes on. Just this morning Pat and I made a pact to live in good health for at least another twenty years. And we will!
      Ron

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  2. So sorry to hear of the loss of your longtime friend, Ron.

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    1. Thank you Tony. I knew Ed before we were both gay (in high school). We have traveled a long journey together. His journey is ended now. He will be missed. Yet another part of my past life, gone. However, I am very fortunate that I have made new friends in my life. Pat and I made a pact this morning that we're going to live another twenty years. We'll see you again in L.A. next year Tony!
      Ron

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  3. Ron,

    So sorry for your loss of another friend. My thoughts are with you.

    Cindy from Sonoma

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    1. Cindy,
      This one especially hurts, more than I thought it would. Ed was one of those friends that you could always call with the latest gossip. He's gone now. Who do I talk to?
      Ron

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  4. You had your share of sadness Ron and I am so sorry for your loss!

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    1. Nadege,
      I have to be honest with you, this is becoming a bit overwhelming. One of the reasons I threw caution to the wind and visited California was witnessing the onset of illness of my friends Ed and Wayne and the loss of my longtime dear friend Bob. These men weren't just "friends" but close friends, part of my life. As I said many times before, I do not fear death but I no longer will put off until "tomorrow" what I can do today while I'm still in good health and have someone to do it with. I am blessed in that I have Bill at home who I love dearly and we have a wonderful life. Then I have my traveling companion Pat and you know we always have a good time, acting like kids. It's the good life now Nadege but we never know when it comes to a sudden end. I am just sorry I can't share my recent experiences with Ed and Wayne. I often confided in them as I did Bob. Bill is the only close friend I have left now. Pat is a new friend and in a different category. When Bill goes (and I hope I go before him), I don't know what I will do. I still have my longtime straight friends like Larry and Stuart but my longtime gay friends . . . . gone.
      Ron

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  5. Sorry for the loss of your friend, Ron. Sending you peace and comfort.

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    1. Mark,
      Thank you so much for your kind and comforting words.
      Ron

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  6. Please accept my sincere condolences for your loss.

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  7. Ron - I can't possibly share the loss you have for Ed - but he truly did strike a chord within me and I really had hoped to visit with him again. It's hard losing part of ones life. Ed struck me as a very nice man.

    Pat

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    1. Pat,
      Ed was a very nice person. He had his issued as we all have, mostly because he was adopted I think, but he was may confident and close friend got most of my life. Another part of me had died.
      Ron

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  8. Ron,
    You have my most sincere condolences on your loss. Unfortunately it is not going to stop, just one more reminder that our road of life is coming to an end faster than we want.
    Jack

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    1. Jack,
      This one hurt more than I had expected. Some people are so much a part of your life, that when they do go it is still a jolt. Ed is one more person that I've called on the phone for most of my life that I can no longer call and just be myself. Bob was the other one. Both gone now. It hurts.
      Ron

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  9. Condolences, Ron. Sending comforting thoughts your way.

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    1. Thank you Walt. This one hit me harder than I had expected. Ed and I shared a lot over the years. No more. Sad.

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    2. Anonymous11:51 AM

      Hi Ron,

      I am writing this e-mail on behalf of my Wife Gail Yetter who knew Ed since childhood, thru high school, and throughout adulthood. She talked with him shortly before he died. She had no idea he was so sick and is devastated by the news of his passing. They always exchanged birthday cards and Christmas cards. Gail would like to contact you to talk about Ed.............Thank You

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    3. I would be glad to talk to your wife about Ed. Just send me an e-mail and I will give you my phone number. I've known Ed since high school when he lived in Chester Springs with his family.
      Ron

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  10. Anonymous8:47 PM

    Ron,

    Gail is a bit challenged with the computer so she uses my e-mail hernandezralph@hotmail.com . She would love to hear from you. As soon as she gets your number she will call you. We are in Arizona so it may be tomorrow if it is too late for you now.

    Regards

    Gail (Yetter) Hernandez
    Ralph Hernandez

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  11. Anonymous3:00 AM

    I met you both in the early 70, while still married to my first wife. I happened to stumble on this post, today. My deepest condolences.

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    1. Thank you. I miss Ed everyday.
      Ron

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