|Bill and I having a "talk" this afternoon - he says my feet stink (they don't by the way)|
With all the sad news I've been posting about my friends lately, it is time I've posted some good news. Bill, my partner for 49 years and legally married spouse for one year is doing fine.
For those of you fortunate enough to meet Bill, you all know what a wonderful man I married. Half a century folks, that's how long he's been putting up with me. And I am the first to admit I am HIGH MAINTENANCE. No one else could put up with me. NO ONE.
Bill and I have an unorthodox relationship (to say the least). He's not a social butterfly. By that I mean he likes to stay at home. I like to get out and roam around. I'm a social butterfly. That's our agreement and it's worked pretty well for the past fifty years.
|Thanksgiving 2003 at a friend's house - I go alone as I do on vacations - Bill prefers to stay at home|
Way back in the Ice Age when he was courting me, he wanted me to move in with him. I told him I would like him as a friend but that I was basically a loner. I am still a loner. He said he wanted me to live with him but that he wouldn't "restrict" me. And that folks, has been our agreement this past fifty years. I have my friends and he has had his friends. Sometimes the twain doesn't meet. But we will always stay together. This is what works for us.
Have there been tensions occasionally? Oh sure, what relationship doesn't have it's ups and downs but one thing remains true. I love Bill and he loves me. Some people don't understand our relationship and I don't expect them to because they can't step outside their own views of what they think a relationship should be. This is the way I look at relationships. Whatever two individuals work out between them is their business, no one else's business.
So there you go folks. Bill and I are working on number 51 . . . and 52 . . . . and 53 and onward as long as we're both alive. And at the rate I'm going, Bill will outlive me.
|Bill putting a puzzle together at the Tunnell Cancer Center while waiting for me to finish my appointment with my oncologist - Bill spends way more time taking me to my doctors' appointments than I do his - he rarely has any|
But nothing has changed and Bill and I will continue to live together as husband and husband. That's our "lifestyle."
And as the old Dinah Washington song says "Tain't Nobody's Business What I Do."