|Me and Bill - Philadelphia - 1970|
Some may think it is "safe" to stay in the closet and I realize I have no right to tell someone how to live their lives. We all have to decide our own journey through life. But I knew this would probably happen in my life should a tragedy occur and that is why I took steps to assure I didn't leave my loved on in this situation.
|Me and Bill at my parents' house Downingtown, PA - 1978|
Most parents are well meaning but some parents, when it comes to discovering that their child is gay are more concerned with "what will the neighbors think?" than they are with the welfare and happiness of their own child. I had such parents. Fortunately for me I have had a long and happy life, with only a few minor speed bumps in my life's journey. Oh sure, occasionally I encounter a member of the family who is so threatened by my existence that they threaten me with physical harm should I "show up on their doorstep" (which happened this last summer during a visit to relatives in the mountains of western North Carolina).
But remember my gay brothers and sisters, when you choose to live in the closet because you think that is the "safest" way to live and to spare your family and friends the "embarrassment" of having a homosexual in the family, look at this film and think "This could happen to me." Never forget, the Declaration of Independence says "We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed y their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness."
|Me and Bill in Milton, DE - 2009 - why is the fact that we're so happy causes so much unhappiness with homphobes?|
The choice is yours my gay brothers and sisters but remember, should an unforeseen tragedy enter into you life as happened with this wonderful couple, who were so happy, this to could happen to you.
|July 1st, 2013 - Georgetown, DE - the day we got our marriage license|