Wedding announcement that appeared in today's Cape Gazette, our local newspaper thus informing everyone, inclusive and non-inclusive that Bill and I are ONE now
Hey folks! There are two things I never expected to see in my lifetime.
One was my participation in a beauty contest (my gay male friends will understand this).
The second "thing" was my wedding announcement in a local newspaper. The thought never occurred to me, not all.
But then a Funny Think Happened on the Way to the Forum.
Delaware, this wonderful, loving, all inclusive state that I live in done when and passed a Marriage Equality bill thus enabling me to officially marry my long time (49 years)
lover, partner, William Daniel Kelly.
So when the law became effective July 1st, Bill and I strode right down to the Sussex County Courthouse in Georgetown and got our marriage license. We joined many other couples, male and female, who were also there to convert their civil unions into marriages. It was a wonderful day that July 1st.
On July 3rd, our 49th anniversary we were married. We were officially now OUT, much to Bill's chagrin, who has always preferred to remain under the radar but not now. We're out there baby, showing the world that two old gay guys, who are not the Usual Suspects in the Gay Cause (we don't dress up as nuns in drag
or leather queens to march in annual Gay Pride parades), can do their part to make life better for those gay couples who will follow us after we're long gone. I know, I know, that was a long sentence but hey, waiting 49 years to get married? Talk about a long "sentence."
We've all seen the usual gay activists faces from places like Camp Rehoboth plastered all over the news media every time there is a forward motion in the Gay Cause. They have helped a lot and their work and effort is much appreciated however I thought I would do something a little different to further the Gay Cause. Me and Bill, two quiet, non-bar attending, no Gayla Balls or gay cruises and definitely no walks on the boardwalk with pink boas camping it up, thus reinforcing gay stereotypes; I thought that we two, old, non-flashy, and definitely not campy gay men would show the world that there are more like us than Them. We're just two human beings, who happen to be the same sex, living out our lives in a quiet neighborhood with our mostly straight neighbors.
|Me, Bill and our dear friends Jack and Judy D. who graciously served as our witnesses - nary a pink boa in sight. The only pink was our pink carnation boutonnieres.|
I think of all those young gay boys and girls who feel that they either should come out as flaming queens or butch bull dykes, with no option in between. Well, I'm here to tell these young folks there is another option. You can live your life just the way you want to, and not feel obligated to live it according to either straight stereotypes or even gay stereotypes. You can just be you. Live openly, get married and have your marriage announcement printed in the newspaper without going through the conduit of the local gay organization. Not that there is anything wrong with gay organizations, but I think we should move forward to the day when wedding announcements like ours can be placed in the newspaper just like straight couples. I think we should move forward to the day when we as gay men and women are fully integrated into the straight community around us to the time when a wedding announcement like ours that appeared in the newspaper today is no longer an anomaly but just a routine wedding announcement.
|Happily married men|
Next up, I attempt to have our wedding announcement placed in my hometown newspaper in Pennsylvania. Now this is really going to be a challenge. Pennsylvania is one of those states that has passed a law banning same sex marriages. To place an ad in my former hometown newspaper in Pennsylvania I have to pay. I will call next week when the woman who handles the ads returns from vacation. This is going to be interesting because to place a wedding announcement in that newspaper, I will have to pay. Let's see if the newspaper's economics (money) wins out over their reticence to offend their conservative readers. Should be interesting folks and I will definitely keep you all posted. As they say, "Stay tuned...."