Sunday, April 14, 2013

"Will You Marry Me?"

My hand on Bill's hand - together forever

There is a real possibility that Delaware will be the 10th state to pass a marriage equality law.

This July Bill and I will have been together for 49 years.  As Joe Biden said "This is a big f_cking deal." And indeed it is folks.  

I always assumed that Bill would marry me once we could get married legally, not "civil unioned" legally, but MARRIED legally.  That's what I always assumed.  Then this morning I got to thinking, neither one of us has ever asked the other  "Do you want to get married?" So this morning, while Bill was checking his e-mail on his ancient (over 14 years old, everything about us is OLD) Toshiba laptop computer I asked him "Do you want to get married?" I was standing behind him while he was seated at his computer.  He didn't even turn around but said "Sure, I'll marry you." 


Bill at his computer in his basement office
So there you go folks, it's official. Not quite the way I pictured the BIG QUESTION would be asked but still just as valid.  Oh I guess I should have got on bended knee and made eye to eye contract and dribbled some romantic nonsense of how much I love him and then popped the big question.  But hey, it is what it is.  He said YES!

So now all we have to wait for is that little detail of Delaware passing a marriage equality law so that all of it's citizens can have the ability to get married and thus have the dignity and protections accorded to others.

As regular readers of this post know, I usually post a LOT of pictures of myself.  This post folks I'm posting pictures of the man I love.  The man who has made my life whole for my whole adult life.  My Bill.


Bill in the Air Force in Japan 1952

Bill at Disney World 1965
Bill the handyman fixing his tractor (something I cannot do but I can cook)
Bill with our neighbor Bob
Me hugging Bill (you didn't think I would post a series of pictures without at least ONE of me did you?)

Bill on one of the rare occasions I drug him out of the house and into a restaurant - sometimes he indulges me and wears a big gaudy erring

Bill definitely does not like to have his picture taken - I hope he doesn't read this blog or I'm in BIG TROUBLE

So there you go folks, that's the man who I asked to marry me this morning.  It's been a long time folks, almost a half a century.  Lots of ups and downs in our relationship over the years but the only thing that will separate us is the last line in the marriage ceremony when we take the vow Until death do us part."  



40 comments:

  1. WELL IT'S ABOUT TIME YOU TWO GOT MARRIED! ;-)

    I can't wait to throw the virtual confetti when you do!

    which one of you will wear the white dress? (tee hee)

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    1. Hey Anne Marie!

      It's going to be a challenge just to get Bill out of his jeans and into some nice pants. I've gotten him out of his pants before but that's another whole story, we won't go there now.

      Ron

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    2. bwhahahahaha! I don't wanna know THAT story! ;-)

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    3. Anne Marie,

      Actually Bill was the one who got me out of my pants. I was SOOO innocent.

      Ron

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    4. innocent, you say? babe in the woods you are. and I STILL don't wanna know that story! ;-)

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    5. Anne Mrie,

      Probably at the Georgetown Courthouse. I'll be lucky if I can get Bill to wear something other than his jeans.

      Ron

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    6. Anne Marie,

      Other than my long legs that was one of the main things that attracted Bill to me. :)

      Rom

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  2. Anonymous8:48 PM

    Ron, you and Bill have a true love story and hope the wedding will be a reality soon. It is very heartwarming to read your blog. Susan

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    1. Thank you Susan. Bill and I do have a true love story. I knew that a few weeks after we met, that he was special. No one before of since has ever treated me like Bill has. No one. Not many people can say that. But it's not about me, my greatest pleasure is loving Bill.

      Have a great day!

      Ron

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  3. Randy in NEB9:12 PM

    Ron, Are you sure it's been 49 years? I don't see much difference in the two pictures, I'm talking about the last pic. All I see are two handsome men who happen to love each other! I'm also glad Bill said yes, now after all these years it will be a chance to make a honest fella out of you. Isn't that how the saying goes? And Anne Marie, I think we all lost our chance to wear white a looong time ago! Randy in NEB.

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    1. Randy,

      Aren't you nice! Yes, I am glad that Bill said "yes" so he can make an honest fella out of me. I've been wallowing in sinful co-habitation far too long. We haven't changed, we still love each other just as much as we did all those years ago, maybe more.

      Ron

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  4. You two are role models, both for gays and for straights who 'didn't know' that gays could have long lasting relationships. The engagement circumstances/question aren't important. I have no doubt the wedding will be fabulous!! :-)

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    1. Mark,

      You and Joe are role models too! Now about that wedding....Bill hates publicity. I have to try and figure out a way that we can get married without anyone being there. Hmmmmmm.


      Ron

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    2. in your home with a justice of the peace and 1 witness?

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  5. It will happen because it is the right thing to do!

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    1. Yes it will Nadege because it is the right thing to do.

      Ron

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    1. Dr. Spo,

      I'm a patient man. :)

      Ron

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  7. Congratulaiotns.

    Very happy that the response was not "Let me think about it." ;-)

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    1. Will,

      Oh, I wouldn't have been surprised at all if Bill gave me the "I'll think about it" response. I learned long ago never to assumed anything with Bill. The next big step is the ceremony. He hates any publicity so how are we going to manage to get married without anyone knowing?

      Ron

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  8. 49 years and you popped the question. You two must be getting serious. Congratulations.

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    1. Geo.,

      I always assumed he would marry me but I thought I better make sure before I do any more public interviews about marriage equality. One never knows with Bill.

      Ron

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  9. I don't know what impresses me more - - the fact that Bill accepted your marriage proposal OR the fact that he has a fourteen-year-old computer that is still working!!! (*smile*)

    Great photos and warmest congratulations!

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    1. Jon,

      Bill's laptop was my Mom's old laptop. He hates to see anything thrown away. Her new Dell computer crashed years ago and she died in 2010 and yet Bill keeps this 1 GB computer going. Never mind it takes him about 15 minutes in the morning to boot up (when it does boot up), he still won't let me buy him a new computer. So he will use that old Toshiba until it crashes, which it surely will.....come day.

      Ron

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  10. Yippee! I'll bet I know who you could get as a wedding photographer... :)

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    1. Walt,

      Were you per chance guessing Mark (of "Mark and Fred?") You guessed right! :)

      Ron

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  11. I do hope that the politico-organisational obstacles are smoothed out for you to take this decisive step next year, Ron. I was going to ask if it would be a white wedding but I see that A.M. has, in a way, got there before me. I sense there's a real international momentum on the issue building up, now helped enormously by France where for them to retreat at this advanced stage would be more hassle than to see marriage equality through - and that has got to be a positive influence on all the ditherers, no matter where.

    Btw: Where would you be going for your honeymoon - or is that top secret?

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    1. Ray,

      No white wedding and we've been on a "honeymoon" for the past 49 years. If and when marriage equality happens Ray, we'll get married quietly and then return back to our normal routine secure in the knowledge that if I die before Bill he won't be hit with a huge inheritance tax (everything is in my name). Marriage equality is gong to happen, the only question is "when?" As usual the United States is seen by the world as dragging kicking and screaming into the modern age as far as treating it's GBLT citizens equally. That old Puritan strain is strong.

      Ron

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  12. Ron,

    What, too cheap to buy an engagement ring? He should have said, "No". Oh well, living where you live the odds are greater of losing it on the beach as my wife did many moons ago. But, gee, maybe even a cigar band... :)

    Lar

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    1. Lar,

      We had "wedding bands" back in the Sixties when we made believe we were married. Unfortunately they were stolen from our apartment in Pennsauken when we had a friend who we asked to watch our apartment while we were on a road trip vacation down south. Apparently he thought "watchng" our apartment meant that he had a place for his sexual liaisons. One of more of those guys stole our rings. We never brought any others. We will now though, but no engagement rings. We've been "engaged for almost 49 years. That speaks for itself.

      Ron

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  13. Ron,

    Married quietly and no one there? Hey, I invited you to my wedding. You have to have two witnesses at least.

    Lar

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    1. Lar,

      I asked to gay friends of mine who live in that non gay friendly state of Pennsylvania to be my witnesses. Also, our photographer. We would like to get married on our anniversary of July 3rd but it's a little busy down here that time of year. We shall see. All depends if the Delaware legislature passes the marriage equality bill. It's not certain.

      Ron

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  14. Awwww. This brought tears to my eyes. I'm a real sucker for love that lasts and happy endings. Come ON Delaware! (Good thing you don't live here in GA.)

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    1. Susan,

      Ours is a love that lasts and does have a happy ending. I have never regretted not having certain things in my life like a swimming pool or a million dollars because I know I have the one thing that matters the most in life, the one person to love and who loves me in spite of all my shortcomings. There is only one person I. The world who fits that description and I found him (he actually found me) 48 years ago. I have had a wonderful life with Bill.

      Ron

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  15. So awesome, Ron! Bill is one in a million! You're both so lucky to have each other!
    Peace <3
    Jay

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    1. Bill is the one Jay. I'm one of the lucky ones. We're so different but a perfect match for each other.

      Ron

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  16. What a lovely story! I might have teared up just a little. I was able to marry my husband in Iowa in 2009 after 13 years together. You and Bill deserve all the happiness you have had and all that is in the future. Congratulations!

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    1. Happyman,

      Thank you for your comment. Hopefully, Bill and I will soon be able to get married. A dream come true.

      Ron

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  17. Yay! Congratulations Ron & Bill !!

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