Raison d'être is a French phrase meaning "reason for existence."
Do you know the reason for your existence?
Most folks, straight folks that is, state that their reason for existence is to have children, grandchildren, et al. Fine and laudable goals for sure.
So what do we gay folk have a reason for existence? Except for those few of us who chose to fake it and have children of our own by the normal biological methods (lots of fantasizing necessary need to impregnate a woman guys), or adopting children.
Why are we gays here?
- Surely("and don't call me Shirley") it is not to have the biggest and gaudiest drag show in town, although God knows some of my gay brethren work for hard at this goal.
- Surely it is not to see how many sexual partners we can accumulate in our lifetime (although I did have a go at that goal myself during the Orgasmic Seventies myself).
- Surely it is not to descend into an alcoholic stupor each day we get older because of a perceived failed life to obtained a partner.
- Surely it is not to substitute food as your friend because of loneliness.
Each of us has something to offer as a reason for our existence on this earth.
Some of us don't know or don't realize what it is they have to offer.
Now I know there are some bad people on this earth and bad people who have come into and (hopefully) exited our lives. Even those people have a reason for existence if for no other reason than we learn a lesson from them.
That lesson could be how to treat other people, because you know the hurt these people inflict by their selfish ways and you don't want to do that to other people.
I look at some of these vapid celebrities like Jennifer Lopez and think "What good do they do for anybody other than feed their own selfish egos?" To me they make me appreciate that my life isn't as selfish, empty and useless as their life.
I look at the current version of the Republican Party and their lies and their selfish goals to turn this country over to the rich and the rest of us be damned. Good versus evil.
I look at myself and others like me who counterbalance such evil in this world to protect those who are weaker than us. And no, I do not apologize for saying this about myself. Too long in my life I have apologized whether by word or action because someone or some people didn't like me or what I stood for. No more.
One of the really wonderful things about getting older is that I can see clearly now. I can see through all the lies and deception and what is true and right.
Thus my raison d'être, I am a counter balance to the bullshit.
What is your raison d'être?