Monday, June 20, 2011
The Best Mom in the World
(Pictured from left to right: Sandy Hadfield Hart - my Mom's cousin - my Mom - and Elaine Reynolds Tyson my Mom's niece - lovely ladies all - all "Hadfield Girls"
My Mom died September 16th, 2010. Even though her death was expected, when she died it was still like a punch in the stomach.
I have two brothers, John and Isaac. When my father died in 2000, my younger brother (he's the middle one) took care of our Mom at her home in Pennsylvania. Then came a time last year when her physical and mental health began to deteriorate more quickly and my brothers and I decided that it would be best for her if she moved in with my brother John in South Carolina. His home had the facilities to take better care of someone in my Mother's condition. John and his wife had a separate "mother-in-law" apartment in their modest ranch house in Greenville, SC. And, John's profession is that he is the care pastor of his church. John and his wife take care of older people in failing health for a living. What better place for our Mom to live out her days.
My brothers and I had always promised Mom that we would never put her in a nursing home. Thanks to my brothers, we were able to keep that promise.
The pictures I have in this video are a random compilation of pictures that I had collected over the years. I surprised myself by being able to put together this DVD because I had never before (or since) used the iMovie maker function of my iMac.
I was very pleased with hour the remembering the rich, full life of our Mom came out. I would like to think I was divinely lead in producing this loving tribute to our Mom.
I know a lot of people say they have the best Mom in the world. And that is probably true. Maybe sometimes that is exaggerated but that's all right too. But one thing I know for sure, my brothers and I all agree that for us we had the Best Mom In The World.
My brothers and I are who we are today because of our Mom. Even towards the end of her life when her personality began to change because of her dementia and she wasn't the Mom we knew all our lives, she was still Our Mom. Nothing could ever change that.
It's been six months now since Mom passed away. I thought I was over it, at least the teary part. Guess what? Every time I watch this DVD, the frog come back into my throat and the tears begin to well up in my eyes. Waves of sadness sweep over me. By the time the DVD ends, I am exhausted.
The purpose of this posting is not to elicit sympathy for me, my brothers or my Mom. To me her passing is part of life. Someday I too will pass as will my brothers. No one needs to be sad. We have all lived a good and fulfilling life as did my Mother. When you watch this DVD, remember that my Mom lived a long and good life.
We all miss her every day. As my brother John said after she died "Ronnie, we're orphans now. Sixty year old orphans, but we're still orphans." I know what he meant. Our Mother was such a guiding force in our lives that now she is gone we feel diminished. But as long as I'm alive I will have these wonderful memories of her which I am sharing with the readers of my blog today.
We all only get one Mom. Isaac, John and I know God smiled on us when he gave us the best.